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Your Monday Challenge

Your Monday Challenge

30 Day Blogging Challenge #20

I have been blogging everyday for 20 days now… what.

Yes.

Honestly, it has been tough, there have been days where the last thing I wanted to do was sit down and write because there were a million other things on my to do list.  But, blogging makes me happy, therefore, as a self-loving gift to myself– I do it.  Just like I talked about in The Science of Happiness and Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How to Start, making time even when you don’t have it to spend time on yourself does make you happier.  And, as a result of that happiness, the rest of your life is boosted.

So on this beautiful motivation Monday I want to motivate you to write down three things that make you smile from the inside out, and vow to do each one at some point this week.

Maybe you schedule them into your day, maybe you do them when you are most stressed, maybe you do them everyday.  It is completely up to you what you do and when you do them, but make sure they get done, it’s happiness we are talking about here!

& Of course, who would I be if I didn’t send a little Motivation Monday your way :

 

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See you tomorrow, YOU MAKE YOU!

Colby

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You’re Not Selfish

You’re Not Selfish

30 Day Blogging Challenge #18

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams (yes– I’ve said this before). What is one of the biggest fears we collectively have? Others.  

We fear what people will think of us.

We fear if what we do will make others happy.

We fear what will happen if we ‘stray from the norm’.

Honestly, I teeter on the edge of saying we fear each other.  Can you tell me the last time you did something for yourself? Can you tell me the last day you didn’t wonder what someone thought about you or something you did?  Can you tell me the last time you didn’t do something because you were scared of what someone would think?  Can you tell me the last time you said ‘fuck you’ to the world and didn’t allow others to enter your thoughts and decisions?

Can you?

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Being a college student, I am immersed in this behavior.  Every day, every hour, I am surrounded by the worry of satisfying others; the self-questioning, the self comprise.

To put it in as few words as possible,  I see people living for someone else.

Putting aside the severe pressure of society to follow a stigmatized norm, I think there is an intense fear of coming off as selfish, and honestly I’m tired of it. It’s sad and it is killing our generation.

It is also a misconception, do you know what the definition of selfish is?

Selfish; lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.

Being completely and utterly wrapped up in yourself to a point where you are inconsiderate of others, that is selfish.

Deciding you don’t want to go to an event because you aren’t feeling it, that isn’t selfish.  You are allowed to enjoy different things. 

Spending your time differently than those around you, that isn’t selfish. Your happiness is what matters most.

Not being able to be there for everyone’s dilemmas all of the time, that isn’t selfish.  You need to take care of yourself first. 

Being or not being friends with someone your other friends aren’t/are, that isn’t selfish.  You choose what/who is apart of your life.

Getting rid of something negative in your life despite any outside influence that may be present, that isn’t selfish.  You deserve more than negativity.

Taking time for yourself, that isn’t selfish. It’s your life. 

Deciding to stop being the sounding board for everyone else’s problems, that isn’t selfish. It’s not fair to you, you deserve more. 

Not following the ‘social norm’, that isn’t selfish. We need more of that in this world.

Saying ‘screw this’ and completely uprooting to put yourself and your happiness first, that isn’t selfish.  This is your life, nobody else’s.

Following your dreams, even if they don’t line up with those around you perfectly, that isn’t selfish, 

That is self loving. 

That is what you were put here to do.

You have one life to live.

One.

The question is, will you make it the one you want?

You are the sole person in control.

#YouMakeYou

 

see you tomorrow xoxox,

Colby

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Stress Is Good // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #13

Stress Is Good // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #13

If there is one thing in this world that anyone could relate to, it would be stress.  Stress is inevitable.

Let’s break it down.

Stress; a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension.

OK, so stress is a state of being that causes tension. Let’s define tension.

Tension; inner striving, unrest, or imbalance often with physiological indication of emotion.

But, that is not the only definition of tension.  In artwork,

Tension;  a balance maintained in an artistic work between opposing forces or element.

The point I am trying to make here, is that tension and stress are not, by definition, negative rather they have become perceived as negative by the world we live in.  By definition stress causes tension in the body, and tension is nothing more than something being out of it’s normal state.  

We live in a world where stress is one of the most common factors to daily life, and with that, stress has developed a negative connotation.  I don’t want to sit here and tell you that stress is all great for you, but I do want to challenge you to change your perception on stress and see how your body reacts.

What if you perceived stress as positive? What if when your heart was racing and you were nervous, instead of letting an uncomfortable feeling take over, you told yourself that these things are happening to you because your body is ramping up for the challenge, your body is helping you prepare for what is ahead?  What if you believed the feelings you are experiencing are your body’s way of saying ‘I got this!’?

What if when you are sitting at your desk feeling stressed about work, instead of feeling overwhelmed, you use that as your body’s warning sign to take a step back, take a deep breathe, and make a nice schedule for yourself.

What if instead of letting stress stress you out, you let stress assist you in staying in tune with yourself.

What if you stopped giving stress the power to hold you back and instead allowed it to motivate you forward.

This is all as simple as a decision to change your mindset, this is what YouMakeYou® is about– realizing that YOU are the one with the power to control your life and then TAKING that power.

Will you take the challenge?

xoxox You Make You,

Colby

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Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How To Start // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #9

Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How To Start // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #9

After 9 straight days of blogging I can honestly say that I love it. But, you know what? I knew that I loved blogging before but I never made it large part of my life.  Worst of all, I am aware of that.  Even more worst of all, this happens to almost everybody in the world.  We know what makes us happy, we know what we love, and we don’t do it.

Here is a great post by The Tiny Buddha where he writes about the human  psychological need to resist that takes over each and every one of us, “There are infinite reasons why we make excuses not to do what’s important to us, and the more important something is to us, the more likely we’ll resist it.” This is why far too often, we do not do what we love.

The closer something is to our heart, the greater we subconsciously let fear take over because it has greater potential to hurt.

I won’t lie– I am a victim of this.  It took me almost 2 years to start blogging regularly despite how much I knew I loved it and wanted to do it.  My fear was of time commitment, but what I didn’t realize that I was the one creating the issue.  Sure, time commitment could be a problem, but I don’t need to let it be.  I don’t have to spend hours blogging everyday, I just have to blog.

On the same caliber, there is the …

fear of failure, fear of what others think, fear of difficulty, fear of not living up to what you think it may be, fear of leaving a comfortable place… fear. That is what it comes down to, fear.

Fear is more prominent when it comes to doing what we love because it is so close to your heart.  You literally want something so badly it hurts.  

We build it up so big in our minds that we become overwhelmed, and we run back to a place of comfort.  Who likes being uncomfortable #amiright?

Right.  But, wrong.  Right?

OK that confusing– simpler terms.. we DO like to be comfortable, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do what we love.

I’ve talked about fear before, I won’t keep giving you that spiel over an over, but what I will say to you is that fear is not tangible.  Fear is a thought of something that hasn’t happened yet but you afraid of it happening.  Why should a thought rule your life?  It shouldn’t and YOU are the one who can change that.

The first step you have to make in deciding to do what makes you happy is to realize that YOU are the one stopping you from doing so.  SURE, there is the fear of what other people may think, but those people aren’t physically stopping you, it is the fear in YOUR head stopping you.  And, guess what stops that fear? YOU.

Take small steps. Most often, you have built something big up in your head.  Realize that it will not happen overnight, nor should it! Rome wasn’t built in a day, ya feel?  We often think that we need to do a lot to be a lot, but we do not.  Does blogging make you happy? START WITH FIFTEEN MINUTES A DAY, you don’t have to pop a squat, build a blog, and write write write, no.  Start with small steps.  Do you want to be a computer scientist? Go online, code for a bit every now and then.

JUST DO IT. Nike #yafeel.

Last but not least, delete the word can’t from your  mind.  The moment negativity becomes present in your mind, your entire psychology is shifted and you make it that much harder for yourself.  Moreover, YOU CAN because #YouMakeYou.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

See you tomorrow!

xoxo YOU MAKE YOU,

Colby Triolo

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Changes I’ve Made That Have Changed Me // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #7

Changes I’ve Made That Have Changed Me // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #7

I don’t know why I keep bobbling back and forth between deep, serious blogs and lighthearted easily read blogs.  It’s like my indecisiveness with lattes and black coffee… every other day its the opposite.  I’m a woman with many interests, ya know?

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I’m sitting in my favorite cafe on campus, thinking about how much I’ve changed over the past two-ish years in college.  I don’t know what spurred me to do this, but it excites me.  I find it so easy to get wrapped up in the speed of life and the comfort of routine.  This is actually one of the changes I have made.  Before college, I was always so routine based.  I knew what I liked, I knew what I had to do, I found what worked for me, and I kept doing it. I didn’t like last minute changes, I didn’t like other people affecting my plans.  With the monotonous schedule of school I, more often than not, did the exact same thing every day.  I grew to love my routine to the point where I couldn’t fathom making a change any  given day.  After going away to college, I have begun to not live without a schedule, but live without a rigid routine.  I say ‘yes’ to things I would have said ‘no’ to before out of refusal to leave my routine.  I enjoy spontaneity.  I am able to learn so much more about myself and experience the world greater than before just because I am open to it.  By simply giving up my type-A schedule based mindset, I have begun the have some of the best experiences of my life.

This isn’t the only change I have made with myself over the past few years…

+ I stopped guzzling down my coffee from a to-go mug and started waiting to drink a cup until I have time to sit down and enjoy it.

+ I started making time, even when I “don’t have it” , to do things that make me happy.

+ I stopped spending time on people who don’t spend time on me.

+ I gave up the fear of failure and started trying things I didn’t think I would be successful at.  run

+ I stopped getting rattled when I couldn’t make it to the gym.

+ I stopped washing my hair every time I showered, no joke this is a thing, you’re not supposed to. 

+ I started doing things for me and stopped feeling selfish about it.

+  I started respect-fully not spending time with people who bring me down.

+ I started making a large effort to spend time with those who bring me up and make me happy.

+ I stopped apologizing unnecessarily.

+ I stopped eating food I don’t actually  like.

+ I stopped doing things because I thought I should and started doing things because I wanted to.

+ I started establishing and recognizing what is important to me.

+ I gave up the belief that I had to be doing work every second of every day.

+ And, I gave up the belief that life is a race to what you will become.

 

If I was to wrap all of these changes up in one point, it would be that I started to get to know and trust myself, and I realized that the most important thing for me, and for you in your life, is to let yourself be the center of your life.  It is not selfish.  We all have one life to live, we can’t waste is concerned about what others think, we can’t waste it hiding in fear, we can’t waste it programmed to a routine of comfort, we need to spend it chasing our own happiness. 

YOU MAKE YOU!

I want to know, what is a change you have made lately? Comment below!

See you tomorrow!

xoxo,

Colby

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Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Happy Day 6 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge! I’m really enjoying this so far, I hope you are too. Leave me a comment, let me know what you think, what do you want to read about?! Did you catch yesterday’s post on the Science of Happiness?

But, more importantly happy Motivation Monday…. this post was almost inevitable  #amiright?  I literally speak in motivational quotes.  You make you.

Have you ever just wanted a massive all-inclusive  list of empowering quotes?  That’s what I’m here for today… to share with you my all time favorite motivational quotes. But, that’s not all, I have a challenge for you.  

Choose your favorite one(s) and recite it to yourself at three different times each day for the next week. Screenshot it, set it as your background, set and alarm in your phone… do whatever you have to do to make your quote a part of your life for the next week and see what happens.

This is called the law of attraction– like attracts like, the more you think something the more you attract it. YOU MAKE YOU, get it 😉

THE MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES !! 

The only difference between try and triumph is a little umph. 

These mountains you are carrying, you were only meant to climb. 

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right. 

Strong is what happens when you run out of weak. 

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams. 

Failure buries us, but seeds are also buried, that is how they come alive.  

You have  got to want it, not kind of want it. 

Run your life, don’t let your life run you. 

Don’t lose power by thinking you don’t have any. 

Be one of a million, not one in a million. 

Don’t look back and ask ‘why?’, look forward and ask ‘why not?’

Clear your mind of can’t.

You’ve got to want it more than you are afraid of it.

Have the courage to fail.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

There are cracks in everything, that is how the light gets in.


What is a motivational quote that always gets you going?  I challenge you to post a picture of that quote on Instagram with the #YouMakeYou today!

xoxo,

Colby

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The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

Here is your Sunday morning paper.

Here is me giving you proof that You do Make You.

Here is the science of happiness.

 

We all know that happiness is one of the most important things out there, but far too often, we fail to chase it, we fail to focus on it, we fail to make time for it. It’s a plague.

Happiness is  far from out of our control, in fact research has shown that 40% of happiness results from intentional activity. What does that mean? That means that you can decide nearly half the amount of happiness you experience every day.

Here is the hiccup.  A researcher at Duke published a paper stating that more than 40% of our daily actions result from habits, not from decisions.  That is why we fail to chase happiness. The other 60% of happiness comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.The other 60% comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.

So how do you make ‘happiness increasing’ thoughts and actions into habits rather than decisions we have to constantly make?

There are major three keys to this.  Eric, from Barking Up the Wrong Tree, breaks them down.

Major Key via GIPHY

  1. Anticipation: There is beauty (&happiness) in having something to look forward to. Don’t have something?  That is where YOU come in.  Schedule something.  It is as simple as that.  Research shows that people who experience joyful anticipation are more likely to experience pleasure not only in looking towards the event, but in experiencing the actual event when it arrives  This works contrastingly as well, those who more often dread something in the future have less happiness in the present moment and even less happiness in the moment of the specific event.  Give yourself something to be excited for—not only do you increase your happiness when it comes around, but you have more happiness before it arrives. It is a win-win.  Remember how excited you were for your high school prom?  Remember how awesome the week leading up to it was, how a smile would slide onto your face on random occasions when thinking about it?  That is what you deserve everyday. Schedule something you are excited for.
  2. Recollection: It is incredibly easy to get caught up in the fast wave of life and simply flow through each day. It is crucial to pull yourself up, to take a breather, and most importantly catalogue what is going on.  What is making you feel good?  What is dragging you down?  Are you where you want to be? Are you ‘playing it safe’ because you are comfortable?  What is your life dream, are you chasing it?  It is crucial to make the conscious effort to ask yourself these questions on a regular basis, otherwise you will look up from a place you haven’t moved from because you are just comfortable, and years will have passed by.  Recollect to yourself on a daily basis.  Your past plays a substantial role in your present.  It is unavoidable, but also can be used to your advantage.  On a similar note, Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Prize winner, has shown that your brain consistently remembers two sole things about an event: the emotional peak, and the end/outcome.  What does that mean? YOU get to create your memories.  In any given situation, fight to make the emotional peak one of happiness and the end one of happiness as well.  For example, on a daily basis, fight to have one amazing moment, and then end on a happy note at night.
  3. Gratitude: this one is simple— gratitude, scientifically leads to optimism, optimism, scientifically leads to happiness. Trust science.  Be grateful for your morning coffee.  Be grateful for your morning walk to work.  Look for what you can be grateful for every hour and you will be more optimistic, and when you are more optimistic, you will be happier.

 

Now, let’s talk about some smaller scale things you scientifically do to affect that 40% of happiness you do control.

Turn your already daily habits into happiness boosting activities. 

Morning coffee? Instead of pouring it in a to-go cup and guzzling it down on the way to work.  Pop a squat, put down your phone, and drink that coffee while doing nothing other than savoring it.

Daily dog walk?  Instead of catching up on voicemails or speed walking to get it over with, take in your surroundings, stroll, enjoy the moment and the beauty of nature.

Exercise. 

That is all. Well said.

Do something every day that makes your heart sing.

Whatever that may be, do it, even if it is only for 5 minutes.  Think you are too busy? You are never too busy for happiness.  Schedule it in. Read, run, drink wine, eat chocolate.

Find the positives.

Not every day will be perfect, you will face adversity.  I could tell you to find the bright side to every situation because optimism amiright? But, let’s be real—sometimes that is impossible.  Life can be just as rough as it can be beautiful.  However, studies show that those who aim to find the lesson or benefit in any situation are not only happier as a whole, but mentally stronger.  Aim to find the meaning in tough times.

 

I want to know, what is one thing you could do every day that makes you happy? Mine is drinking tea in bed at night!

Always remember, YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxox,

Colby

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Sources:

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/02/happiest-people-in-the-world/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/06/happiest-people/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/01/what-are-the-three-secrets-to-happy-memories/

 

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Have the Courage to Fail // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #2

Have the Courage to Fail // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #2

Today is day two of my 30 day blogging challenge, thanks for stopping by! Now it’s time for some real talk.

Real talk.  I fail.  I fail, a lot.

But, do you what I do not fail at? Trying. 

Sure, if given the choice I would never make the conscious decision to fail, but I would always make the decision to have the courage to fail. 

There is a negative conation built up around the world ‘fail’ that I want to tear down for you today.

Failing is not bad. 

Failing is not embarrassing. 

Failing is not something you should fear.

 Instead, failing means you are living.  And, not only does it mean you are living, but it means you are living true to what you want to be.  When you have the courage to fail, it means that you want something so badly you are not afraid of what happens if you try.  That is heart. That is commendable.

This goes back to my post on ‘fear’ from this past summer— FEAR stands for ‘false expectations appearing real’.  Essentially, the fear you have of something is a scenario that you have made up in your mind, it hasn’t happened yet, so you are afraid of what you are imagining.  But, why?  Why do we let thoughts scare us so much?  There is no hard evidence of things we fear happening, there is just the thought of them happening.  This, in a tough love sort of way, makes fear a waste of time.

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Transfer back to failure. When you have the courage to fail you are denying fear of failing, you are denying the ‘what-ifs’ and the ‘but’s’ and opening countless doors to the possibilities and real life results instead of letting thoughts of what could happen if you failed hold you back.  You are experiencing life in its raw form, not it’s imagined form.

The most impactful mistake one can make is to never start something.  If you let the fear of failure halt you before you even start,  you are robbing yourself of the experience, the result, and anything that was to happen along the way.  It is not fair to yourself to steal that.

When you have the courage to fail you have the opportunity to reach entirely new levels you couldn’t have before.

Think of a monkey.  To climb a tree, it must jump.  If it had the fear of falling, it would stay on the ground forever.  Whereas, if it had the courage to fail, it would eventually, maybe after a few falls and mishaps, reach the top of the tree, perching itself atop the highest branch, taking in the beautiful world around it.

Do you want to take in these views? Or, do you want to sit on the hard ground, shadowed by the greater trees?

Sure, failure is scary. But the opportunity of a whole new world and perspective is on a greater scale, more beautiful.

I challenge you to have the courage to fail, to say “BRING IT ON”  because without this courage, you will never know what you are capable of.

Here’s the thing…. if you have the courage to fail, yes then failure is an option, but if you refuse to attempt something because of the fear of failure, failure is the only option. Which is better?

Let failure be an option, and if it happens… it happens! I guarantee you that with every success story comes an endless number of failures.  Some of the biggest lessons comes from failure. But without the courage to fail, there is no story to even tell.

Let failure be an option, let it happen.  Have the courage.  And, experience the amazing places you will go.

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See you tomorrow!

Xoxo,

Colby

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Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

You have one life to live.  THIS life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  The power is yours.  How many times have you read that line from me? Many.  And yes, it is true.  I full heartedly believe in self-empowerment and have experienced firsthand the grand power the mind holds.   However, there are a lot of things that I want, that I do not believe in myself, or make the moves to achieve.

Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel.

Stop eating your entire weight in cereal on a weekly basis.

Knuckle down and spend the time to accomplish it.

This is advice I would give you.  More importantly, I would believe these statements and empower you with all I had to do the same.  However, if I told myself these things—actually I do tell myself these things—I wouldn’t believe the validity or see the answer in them. I don’t believe them when it is me on the receiving end.

No, I am not a fraud.  I am just a human, and as humans we struggle to take our own advice.  It is not that our advice is false, because it is not, it is simply that when we give ourselves advice, we find a way to believe we are an exception and our minds work to justify why the advice doesn’t apply to us.  It is frustrating.  It really is. It is like a plague—the person we should trust the most, we often trust the least.

Yes, I am going all Engineer on you again.  Here is the scientific reasoning:

As yourself, you know everything: your thoughts, your emotions, your background, your desires, your everything.  Therefore, any decision becomes a subjective one, and you lose the ability to rationalize your thinking.  Everything you suggest to yourself is affected by your emotions and the questioning of your mind.  Think about it like this… when you ask someone to give you advice, all they have to their knowledge is the hard facts you supply them with.  Sure, you could let your opinion be heard, or your emotions come out, but the ‘advice giver’ is easily able to dissect the facts from the feelings and spit back to you an objective, rational answer.  However, if you were to sit in a room with yourself, you not only have the facts running around, but you have your emotions and desires tainting them, pulling them left and right, twisting them up and down, eventually causing you to lose sight of the basic scenario, and the rationality of the situation.  We often find a way to convince ourselves that we are the exception to our own advice or the advice doesn’t apply to us.  This is a figment of our emotions.  Concurrently, this is our internal struggle to look deeply inward and be ‘harsh’ on ourselves.  Emotions cause us to hesitate to delve deeper into these feeling, and to push past them and get to the truth on the inside. We feel emotions and we stop—we don’t want to go deeper.  We don’t want to dissect them.  We don’t want to be ‘harsh’ and bring ourselves back to reality.  This is why we take others advice more easily than our own.  1. They don’t feel the emotions we feel, therefore they have the ability to objectify the decision rationally and 2. They aren’t afraid to be full heartedly real with the truth.

OK, cool, that was demoralizing.  No, that was not the point—those are just the facts.  This happens to everyone and it is OK.  Being human is OK.  More than OK, actually.  But, here are some tips I have discovered to help you defeat this barrier between yourself and.. well yourself.

Bounce of of others.  Give yourself advice, and then “double check” it with a friend.

Write it out.  Write out the situation and then read it as someone looking in.  Respond how you would if a friend were coming to you with the same situation.

Stop being so harsh on yourself.  Do you know the saying, “treat others the way you want to be treated”? Well, it works both ways.  TREAT YOURSELF the way you would treat others.  We are far too often incredibly harsh on ourselves in our minds.  However, 9/10 times the things we say, or think, to ourselves we wouldn’t say to another person.  There is no need for this.

Stop saying “I should” and just do.  A simple change in word choice can make a world of difference.

Whatever your ‘but’ case is, flip it. Usually the thing keeping us from taking our own advice is the ‘but’.   I should talk to him but I am nervous he isn’t interested. No, flip it. I am nervous he isn’t interested but I should talk to him because I am not positive.  I should apply for another job because I am not happy but I don’t want to offend my co-workers so I won’t.  No. I don’t want to offend my co-workers but I should apply for another job because I am not happy. Get the idea?

 

We have one life to live, THIS life, YOUR life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  TRUST YOURSELF to get you there.

YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxo, Colby

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#1 Thing Holding You Back

#1 Thing Holding You Back

Don’t tell me you can’t.

More importantly, don’t tell yourself that “you can’t”.

Why?

Because when you do so, you are validating it.  You are the reason that “you can’t”.

You are putting yourself at a disadvantage.

There is something called the “Law of Attraction”, which essentially states the science-base fact that the more you think something, the more you attract it.  So when you think you can’t… you are attracting the “can’t” factor more than normal, and even worse, more than the “can factor”.

Here is an excerpt from my 21 Day Power Up, a step by step guide to the most powerful mindset of your life:


“Story time: You are scaling the side of a massive mountain trying to reach the top (maybe your favorite jar of nut butter is there), there are 100 people watching from the ground….

Scenario A: Those 100 people are laughing at you, whispering to each other ‘there is no way you’ll make it’, and making sneering comments at you for even trying. What happens?  You feel defeated, upset, you lose confidence, and it becomes difficult, almost impossible for you to reach the top as a result.  You get discouraged.

Scenario B: Those 100 people are clapping, cheering you on, chanting to you that ‘you got this’! What happens? You feel confident, empowered, strong, and as a result you feel lifted and climb higher and higher.  You are encouraged.”


These scenarios reflect flawlessly to today’s topic of mindset.  Those 100 people are the thoughts going through your mind at any given moment; when they are negative, when they are telling you that “you can’t” they are holding you back, causing you to fail; but, when they are positive, when they are telling you that “you can” they are lifting you up and allowing you to succeed.

So, please, do not tell me that “you can’t”.  Remove it from your vocabulary right now.  Don’t let something as simple as a thought rob you of what you want and where you want to be.  Don’t make things harder for yourself.  Align your thoughts, align your mindset, and conquer your dreams.  Anything is possible, the first step is simply believing.  Start right now.

YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo,

Colby (say hi! on IG)

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