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Roll With The Punches

Roll With The Punches

30 Day Blogging Challenge #30

Day thirty. Wow,  I made it without missing a single day! Want to know something funny though?  I almost couldn’t find the time to post today, LOL, but then it hit me that I can’t end like that.  Who ends like that? NOBODY.  That’s taking a huge L.  So here I am: fingers typing faster than I have ever seen them while simultaneously  shoveling chicken and roasted potatoes into my mouth.  It’s a good time, it really is.

BLOG + POTATOES + CHICKEN = IMPOSSIBLE TO BE NEGATIVE #AMIRIGHT

Here is my status right now, besides the chicken and potatoes, I have my very first marathon in Philly in 3 days, I woke up with an awful cold :/ , and my IT band is acting up.

I’m pretty nervous and a little upset but I don’t want to let that get in my way.  I’ve trained for 18 weeks, a little cold and slight irritation in my knee can’t stop me now.  Sure, I wish the cold could have come a week earlier, but it didn’t.  My knee could chill the f!ck out, but it’s not.

Sh!t happens, it does, that is life.  You have to roll with the punches.  

Most of you know, from reading my story, that the one thing I believe over everything is is that everything happens for a reason. No matter how bad something may seem in the moment, no matter how hard it may be to see the reasoning for something– I promise that it is there.

With every hurdle thrown into your path, you are presented with a choice.  Let it knock you down, or build up an extra bit of energy and hop right over it.  

Hopping over it is what I am choosing to do this Sunday.  I will run that course no matter what.  No, actually I will finish that course no matter what.  Me getting upset and frustrated  will just make it ten times harder on myself, so I choose to not do that.

You have the same choices, and I challenge you to jump.   Jump right into whatever you do.  Because when you let hesitation and ill feelings hold you back, you are missing part of the experience and opportunity.


Even though my challenge is over, I have fallen in love with the hobby of blogging, so don’t forget to keep checking back.  Especially soon for a marathon recap!

xoxox DON’T FORGET YOU MAKE YOU!

Colby

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Act Without Knowing The Result

Act Without Knowing The Result

30 Day Blogging Challenge #24

I am tired of hearing I want.  To me, it’s almost as bad as I can’t.  You can tell me you want something as much as you desire, but what is the changing?  Please enlighten me, please explain to me this epidemic of wanting wanting wanting and walking through life continuing to want, being pulled by commonality and a monotonous daily routine without changing that want into have.  I am tired of hearing it.  If you want something, please realize right this very second that it is yours.   It may not be easy.  It may take time.  It may take sacrifice.  But if you want something enough to continually verbalize, or even think, about wanting it, for the sake of yourself, please take it. 

 

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We grow up completing tasks and doing things for a reason. Your boss wants you to rearrange the filing cabinets, so you do it.  Your professor wants you to read a case study, so you do it.  Your mom wants you to walk the dog, so you do it.  All our lives, we prioritize the things that have reason.  We do things of which we know the outcome.

But did you ever think of the possibility of beginning a task without knowing what the result will be? Perpetually, that scares us because we have been Pavlonian-programmed to hop on to tasks that are not open ended.  We have done just that all of our lives.

So, that is why when we say we want [something] we rarely ever work towards [that thing].  We are unsure of how to jump into a world of unknown.  We are uncomfortable not having ‘reason’ and concrete confidence.  We aren’t used to it.   We are programmed to minimize uncertainty.

But that is life.  Life is uncertainty, that is the thrill of it. There is nothing wrong with that feeling, it is just one we have to get used to.  It is one that when we do get used to, will open up endless doors into endless opportunities.

Did you ever realize that you can change your want immediately into more if you just do.  Did you ever realize that there is no time more perfect than now?

Sure, uncertainty is unsettling but it is also rewarding and thrilling, it’s healthy.  It results in mental growth, change, and personality building. 

And sure, you may fail, but one: we’ve talked about this before, and two: you may succeed beyond imagination.

Further than making your want into have, learning to do things for the mere reason of doing them is a skill to own.  Mark Manson put it perfectly:

Developing the ability to simply do things for no other reason than curiosity or interest or hell, even boredom — the ability to do things with no expectation for result or accolade or productivity or fanfare — will train you to better make these big ambiguous life decisions. It will train you to simply start on something without knowing where in the hell it’s going.

It can be scary, yes.  But it can also be one of the most rewarding talents you could ever learn.

I challenge you to do something over the next week for the mere hell of it.  

I challenge you to stop saying I want and just do.

One more time for good measure.

Don’t be afraid of the unknown, YouMakeYou!

xoxo,

Colby

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Changes I’ve Made That Have Changed Me // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #7

Changes I’ve Made That Have Changed Me // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #7

I don’t know why I keep bobbling back and forth between deep, serious blogs and lighthearted easily read blogs.  It’s like my indecisiveness with lattes and black coffee… every other day its the opposite.  I’m a woman with many interests, ya know?

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I’m sitting in my favorite cafe on campus, thinking about how much I’ve changed over the past two-ish years in college.  I don’t know what spurred me to do this, but it excites me.  I find it so easy to get wrapped up in the speed of life and the comfort of routine.  This is actually one of the changes I have made.  Before college, I was always so routine based.  I knew what I liked, I knew what I had to do, I found what worked for me, and I kept doing it. I didn’t like last minute changes, I didn’t like other people affecting my plans.  With the monotonous schedule of school I, more often than not, did the exact same thing every day.  I grew to love my routine to the point where I couldn’t fathom making a change any  given day.  After going away to college, I have begun to not live without a schedule, but live without a rigid routine.  I say ‘yes’ to things I would have said ‘no’ to before out of refusal to leave my routine.  I enjoy spontaneity.  I am able to learn so much more about myself and experience the world greater than before just because I am open to it.  By simply giving up my type-A schedule based mindset, I have begun the have some of the best experiences of my life.

This isn’t the only change I have made with myself over the past few years…

+ I stopped guzzling down my coffee from a to-go mug and started waiting to drink a cup until I have time to sit down and enjoy it.

+ I started making time, even when I “don’t have it” , to do things that make me happy.

+ I stopped spending time on people who don’t spend time on me.

+ I gave up the fear of failure and started trying things I didn’t think I would be successful at.  run

+ I stopped getting rattled when I couldn’t make it to the gym.

+ I stopped washing my hair every time I showered, no joke this is a thing, you’re not supposed to. 

+ I started doing things for me and stopped feeling selfish about it.

+  I started respect-fully not spending time with people who bring me down.

+ I started making a large effort to spend time with those who bring me up and make me happy.

+ I stopped apologizing unnecessarily.

+ I stopped eating food I don’t actually  like.

+ I stopped doing things because I thought I should and started doing things because I wanted to.

+ I started establishing and recognizing what is important to me.

+ I gave up the belief that I had to be doing work every second of every day.

+ And, I gave up the belief that life is a race to what you will become.

 

If I was to wrap all of these changes up in one point, it would be that I started to get to know and trust myself, and I realized that the most important thing for me, and for you in your life, is to let yourself be the center of your life.  It is not selfish.  We all have one life to live, we can’t waste is concerned about what others think, we can’t waste it hiding in fear, we can’t waste it programmed to a routine of comfort, we need to spend it chasing our own happiness. 

YOU MAKE YOU!

I want to know, what is a change you have made lately? Comment below!

See you tomorrow!

xoxo,

Colby

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Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Happy Day 6 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge! I’m really enjoying this so far, I hope you are too. Leave me a comment, let me know what you think, what do you want to read about?! Did you catch yesterday’s post on the Science of Happiness?

But, more importantly happy Motivation Monday…. this post was almost inevitable  #amiright?  I literally speak in motivational quotes.  You make you.

Have you ever just wanted a massive all-inclusive  list of empowering quotes?  That’s what I’m here for today… to share with you my all time favorite motivational quotes. But, that’s not all, I have a challenge for you.  

Choose your favorite one(s) and recite it to yourself at three different times each day for the next week. Screenshot it, set it as your background, set and alarm in your phone… do whatever you have to do to make your quote a part of your life for the next week and see what happens.

This is called the law of attraction– like attracts like, the more you think something the more you attract it. YOU MAKE YOU, get it 😉

THE MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES !! 

The only difference between try and triumph is a little umph. 

These mountains you are carrying, you were only meant to climb. 

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right. 

Strong is what happens when you run out of weak. 

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams. 

Failure buries us, but seeds are also buried, that is how they come alive.  

You have  got to want it, not kind of want it. 

Run your life, don’t let your life run you. 

Don’t lose power by thinking you don’t have any. 

Be one of a million, not one in a million. 

Don’t look back and ask ‘why?’, look forward and ask ‘why not?’

Clear your mind of can’t.

You’ve got to want it more than you are afraid of it.

Have the courage to fail.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

There are cracks in everything, that is how the light gets in.


What is a motivational quote that always gets you going?  I challenge you to post a picture of that quote on Instagram with the #YouMakeYou today!

xoxo,

Colby

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The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

Here is your Sunday morning paper.

Here is me giving you proof that You do Make You.

Here is the science of happiness.

 

We all know that happiness is one of the most important things out there, but far too often, we fail to chase it, we fail to focus on it, we fail to make time for it. It’s a plague.

Happiness is  far from out of our control, in fact research has shown that 40% of happiness results from intentional activity. What does that mean? That means that you can decide nearly half the amount of happiness you experience every day.

Here is the hiccup.  A researcher at Duke published a paper stating that more than 40% of our daily actions result from habits, not from decisions.  That is why we fail to chase happiness. The other 60% of happiness comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.The other 60% comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.

So how do you make ‘happiness increasing’ thoughts and actions into habits rather than decisions we have to constantly make?

There are major three keys to this.  Eric, from Barking Up the Wrong Tree, breaks them down.

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  1. Anticipation: There is beauty (&happiness) in having something to look forward to. Don’t have something?  That is where YOU come in.  Schedule something.  It is as simple as that.  Research shows that people who experience joyful anticipation are more likely to experience pleasure not only in looking towards the event, but in experiencing the actual event when it arrives  This works contrastingly as well, those who more often dread something in the future have less happiness in the present moment and even less happiness in the moment of the specific event.  Give yourself something to be excited for—not only do you increase your happiness when it comes around, but you have more happiness before it arrives. It is a win-win.  Remember how excited you were for your high school prom?  Remember how awesome the week leading up to it was, how a smile would slide onto your face on random occasions when thinking about it?  That is what you deserve everyday. Schedule something you are excited for.
  2. Recollection: It is incredibly easy to get caught up in the fast wave of life and simply flow through each day. It is crucial to pull yourself up, to take a breather, and most importantly catalogue what is going on.  What is making you feel good?  What is dragging you down?  Are you where you want to be? Are you ‘playing it safe’ because you are comfortable?  What is your life dream, are you chasing it?  It is crucial to make the conscious effort to ask yourself these questions on a regular basis, otherwise you will look up from a place you haven’t moved from because you are just comfortable, and years will have passed by.  Recollect to yourself on a daily basis.  Your past plays a substantial role in your present.  It is unavoidable, but also can be used to your advantage.  On a similar note, Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Prize winner, has shown that your brain consistently remembers two sole things about an event: the emotional peak, and the end/outcome.  What does that mean? YOU get to create your memories.  In any given situation, fight to make the emotional peak one of happiness and the end one of happiness as well.  For example, on a daily basis, fight to have one amazing moment, and then end on a happy note at night.
  3. Gratitude: this one is simple— gratitude, scientifically leads to optimism, optimism, scientifically leads to happiness. Trust science.  Be grateful for your morning coffee.  Be grateful for your morning walk to work.  Look for what you can be grateful for every hour and you will be more optimistic, and when you are more optimistic, you will be happier.

 

Now, let’s talk about some smaller scale things you scientifically do to affect that 40% of happiness you do control.

Turn your already daily habits into happiness boosting activities. 

Morning coffee? Instead of pouring it in a to-go cup and guzzling it down on the way to work.  Pop a squat, put down your phone, and drink that coffee while doing nothing other than savoring it.

Daily dog walk?  Instead of catching up on voicemails or speed walking to get it over with, take in your surroundings, stroll, enjoy the moment and the beauty of nature.

Exercise. 

That is all. Well said.

Do something every day that makes your heart sing.

Whatever that may be, do it, even if it is only for 5 minutes.  Think you are too busy? You are never too busy for happiness.  Schedule it in. Read, run, drink wine, eat chocolate.

Find the positives.

Not every day will be perfect, you will face adversity.  I could tell you to find the bright side to every situation because optimism amiright? But, let’s be real—sometimes that is impossible.  Life can be just as rough as it can be beautiful.  However, studies show that those who aim to find the lesson or benefit in any situation are not only happier as a whole, but mentally stronger.  Aim to find the meaning in tough times.

 

I want to know, what is one thing you could do every day that makes you happy? Mine is drinking tea in bed at night!

Always remember, YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxox,

Colby

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Sources:

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/02/happiest-people-in-the-world/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/06/happiest-people/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/01/what-are-the-three-secrets-to-happy-memories/

 

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Have the Courage to Fail // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #2

Have the Courage to Fail // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #2

Today is day two of my 30 day blogging challenge, thanks for stopping by! Now it’s time for some real talk.

Real talk.  I fail.  I fail, a lot.

But, do you what I do not fail at? Trying. 

Sure, if given the choice I would never make the conscious decision to fail, but I would always make the decision to have the courage to fail. 

There is a negative conation built up around the world ‘fail’ that I want to tear down for you today.

Failing is not bad. 

Failing is not embarrassing. 

Failing is not something you should fear.

 Instead, failing means you are living.  And, not only does it mean you are living, but it means you are living true to what you want to be.  When you have the courage to fail, it means that you want something so badly you are not afraid of what happens if you try.  That is heart. That is commendable.

This goes back to my post on ‘fear’ from this past summer— FEAR stands for ‘false expectations appearing real’.  Essentially, the fear you have of something is a scenario that you have made up in your mind, it hasn’t happened yet, so you are afraid of what you are imagining.  But, why?  Why do we let thoughts scare us so much?  There is no hard evidence of things we fear happening, there is just the thought of them happening.  This, in a tough love sort of way, makes fear a waste of time.

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Transfer back to failure. When you have the courage to fail you are denying fear of failing, you are denying the ‘what-ifs’ and the ‘but’s’ and opening countless doors to the possibilities and real life results instead of letting thoughts of what could happen if you failed hold you back.  You are experiencing life in its raw form, not it’s imagined form.

The most impactful mistake one can make is to never start something.  If you let the fear of failure halt you before you even start,  you are robbing yourself of the experience, the result, and anything that was to happen along the way.  It is not fair to yourself to steal that.

When you have the courage to fail you have the opportunity to reach entirely new levels you couldn’t have before.

Think of a monkey.  To climb a tree, it must jump.  If it had the fear of falling, it would stay on the ground forever.  Whereas, if it had the courage to fail, it would eventually, maybe after a few falls and mishaps, reach the top of the tree, perching itself atop the highest branch, taking in the beautiful world around it.

Do you want to take in these views? Or, do you want to sit on the hard ground, shadowed by the greater trees?

Sure, failure is scary. But the opportunity of a whole new world and perspective is on a greater scale, more beautiful.

I challenge you to have the courage to fail, to say “BRING IT ON”  because without this courage, you will never know what you are capable of.

Here’s the thing…. if you have the courage to fail, yes then failure is an option, but if you refuse to attempt something because of the fear of failure, failure is the only option. Which is better?

Let failure be an option, and if it happens… it happens! I guarantee you that with every success story comes an endless number of failures.  Some of the biggest lessons comes from failure. But without the courage to fail, there is no story to even tell.

Let failure be an option, let it happen.  Have the courage.  And, experience the amazing places you will go.

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See you tomorrow!

Xoxo,

Colby

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#1 Thing Holding You Back

#1 Thing Holding You Back

Don’t tell me you can’t.

More importantly, don’t tell yourself that “you can’t”.

Why?

Because when you do so, you are validating it.  You are the reason that “you can’t”.

You are putting yourself at a disadvantage.

There is something called the “Law of Attraction”, which essentially states the science-base fact that the more you think something, the more you attract it.  So when you think you can’t… you are attracting the “can’t” factor more than normal, and even worse, more than the “can factor”.

Here is an excerpt from my 21 Day Power Up, a step by step guide to the most powerful mindset of your life:


“Story time: You are scaling the side of a massive mountain trying to reach the top (maybe your favorite jar of nut butter is there), there are 100 people watching from the ground….

Scenario A: Those 100 people are laughing at you, whispering to each other ‘there is no way you’ll make it’, and making sneering comments at you for even trying. What happens?  You feel defeated, upset, you lose confidence, and it becomes difficult, almost impossible for you to reach the top as a result.  You get discouraged.

Scenario B: Those 100 people are clapping, cheering you on, chanting to you that ‘you got this’! What happens? You feel confident, empowered, strong, and as a result you feel lifted and climb higher and higher.  You are encouraged.”


These scenarios reflect flawlessly to today’s topic of mindset.  Those 100 people are the thoughts going through your mind at any given moment; when they are negative, when they are telling you that “you can’t” they are holding you back, causing you to fail; but, when they are positive, when they are telling you that “you can” they are lifting you up and allowing you to succeed.

So, please, do not tell me that “you can’t”.  Remove it from your vocabulary right now.  Don’t let something as simple as a thought rob you of what you want and where you want to be.  Don’t make things harder for yourself.  Align your thoughts, align your mindset, and conquer your dreams.  Anything is possible, the first step is simply believing.  Start right now.

YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo,

Colby (say hi! on IG)

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Priorities – My Olympic Thoughts

Priorities – My Olympic Thoughts

Two thoughts I always have while watching the Olympics:

It would be so cool to be competing there.

I can’t even imagine what those athletes had to give up to get to that point.

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Don’t get me wrong, I admire and respect every single one of the Olympians.  But, that’s not for me.  I have different priorities– I love fitness, I love athletics, but I also love being spontaneous with my friends, I love lying on the beach for hours on end, I love traveling the world, I love running YouMakeYou®, I love well.. a lot of things. 

My priorities are happiness, self-love, and empowering others to do the same.  So, I make a sincere effort to do what fosters those priorities.

I have not always been like this.  I can honestly say that it is hard to know and respect your boundaries.  I spent years of my life swept by  main stream society and doing things just because I thought I should.  The worst part?  I didn’t even realize this was the case.  It is easy to mold directly into society, it is easy to…

be one of a million instead of one in a million.

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In our world today it is easy to become part of the crowd: to do what is the ‘norm’, to be like your friends, to want to be like everyone else.  It is understandable.. everyone wants  to fit in.

However, this is the root of many problems.

When we do this we are ignoring our priorities.

Do you want to go on a diet and workout to the point of exhaustion because you actually want to or because you want to have the body of someone else?

Do you want to spend hours a day on Instagram or Twitter  because you actually enjoy it or because you feel like you have to for your audience?

Do you want to order that salad at dinner because you actually want it or because society has labelled it as a ‘good food’?

Get the idea?  Priorities are EVERYWHERE.  And as the sole creator of your life, it is so incredibly important to know what yours are and respect them.  Going back to my inspiration for writing this post, the Olympics, to be an Olympic athlete you have to give up a lot.  But for some people, their priorities ARE going to the Olympics so it is soul-fully okay for them to give up these things.  Now, to bring this back to a relate-able level, everything you do should in some way, shape or form reflect your priorities.  You have ONE life to live, YOUR life, you do not, and should not,  have to do anything just because  you think you should.  YOU are the sole person you should strive to satisfy.

I see this a lot on Instagram, especially in the fitness world.  Far too often, people revolve their lives around restrictive eating and rigid workout routines when there is no reason for doing so.  They are not training for any sort of competition, they want to look a certain way, or strive to be something they have seen on social media.  They lose sight of their priorities and fitness becomes their life when it was just meant to be part of their life.

Now, I don’t want to offend anyone.  Yes– my priorities are happiness, self-love, and empowering others but that does not mean that yours have to be as well.  Your priorities are defined by YOU.  Whatever they may be, I just ask you to stay true to them, never conform for society, and never lose sight of yourself.

Be one IN a million, not one OF a million.

YOU MAKE YOU

I want to know:

What is your favorite Olympic sport to watch? Mine is gymnastics.

Summer or Winter Olympics? Summmmmmmer.


ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo, Colby

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Summer Bucket List

Summer Bucket List

You know me… all about setting goals.  I set a goal every morning when I wake up, I set a goal at the beginning of each week, I set a goal before I do pretty much anything.  It keeps me focused and gives me an end result to work for– this is something I spend a few days focusing on in the 21 Day Power Up: a step by step mindset makeover to conquer your YMY journey.

So, today whilst (is that the proper usage? not actually sure, but sounded fancy) lying on the beach I decided I wanted to make a summer bucket list…. for the one last week I have left at home. LOL. #Ambition
When you realize you only have a week left….

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SUMMER BUCKETLIST!

Watch the sunset. #classic

Watch the sunrise. #StillClassic

Skinny dip in the ocean.

Drink all smoothies all day.

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Run every morning and jump in the ocean directly after.

Read a book cover to cover without moving my butt from where it started.

Ignore my phone and technology for an entire day.  #BeOneWithTheUniverse

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Spend an entire day with each of my parents. 

 

OK. Yeah, I’m going to stop there and get started on these. THE COUNTDOWN IS ON!  I want to know:

What is one thing you want to do before you go back to school?

 

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ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo, Colby

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Top Tips for Overachievers

Top Tips for Overachievers

WOW, I have been talking about this a lot recently... but all my life I have been the textbook definition of Type A: perfectionist, over-achiever, full of drive, “go go go” , always thinking “what can I do to make this better”.  And I just want to say before I get any further, this article is not going to teach you how to NOT be these things. In fact, I would not trade my personality for the world… most times 😉 This article is meant to give you the TOOLS to balance this personality.  For those of you doing my 21 Day Power Up, you are working on this inner balance as we speak.. OK as you read this, not speak.  This article is meant to show you that temporarily reverting away from those habits can actually propel you forward MORE.

 

5 Tips to De-Stress the Over Achiever, in a non-stressful way.

What do I mean ‘in a non-stressful way’? I mean that when I am stressed out and people tell me to just calm down and take a break—that makes me MORE stressed. I like being busy, I THRIVE on constantly pushing pushing pushing, I like the thrill of knowing I can always do better. But, I do NOT like slowing down. And, I know there are many people reading this right now thinking “YES, me neither” so this is for you.

 Does that make sense? I promise it will if you keep reading.

 

  1. Stop filling up every split second of your time. When you have 5 minutes before you leave the house, you DO NOT have to find a task to fill these minutes up. Try sitting down and doing something mindless that you enjoy.   I PROMISE these 5 minutes that aren’t spent on a ‘productive task’ are still productive for you—you are giving your body a chance to recharge. And, no later in the day you will not regret the ‘missed 5 minutes of work’.

 

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  1. Stress does not have to be negative. I recently read a few studies on perception of stress. The end result? Stress is only BAD if you think it is bad.   It has been found that those who have stress but spin it in a positive way experience no negative side effects while those who have the same amount of stress and assume it to be negative, have tons of stress related issues. Next time you are feeling stressed, instead of getting worked up or nervous, say to yourself something along the line of “these things that I am feeling are actually my body amping up to handle everything successfully, my body CAN handle this and it’s simply adjusting to do so.” Also try using synonyms for “stress” and “worry”.

 

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  1. Recognize the good. This one is pretty simple. Take the time to congratulate yourself on a job well done, and celebrate the little things.  You deserve it!

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  1. Don’t over complicate things. If you are given a task. Guess how long it will take, take that time to complete it, and move on. Trust me, as a certified over-achiever I know the feeling of having to do everything to the max, but just TRY simply completing things that do not need to be overly completed. If you are going to a friends house for dinner, it is OK to buy dessert from a store, you don’t have to make it! If you are studying for an exam, JUST STUDY, you don’t have to write practice tests or litanies of study guides. You get the idea 😉
  1. Do things for YOU. Because hey, YOU MAKE YOU.  Know your reason, know your goals, and spend your time working for those things.

 

I want to know:

Which one of these tips are you going try first?

Also published on MyUnsettledLife.com


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xoxo, Colby

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