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Tips To Balance a Busy Life

Tips To Balance a Busy Life

30 Day Blogging Challenge #23

Do you know the days when you feel like you were hit by a bus full of shit to do, when you have so much on your to do list that you don’t know where to start? Those days, yeah they happen, that’s life, it’s great.

I wrote and entire eBook on how to successfully balance health and happiness especially while in college (PEEP only $2.50 here) but I want to share a few tips with you today because it is just one of those weeks.  And when times get tough, blog it out.  That’s how it works right?

In all seriousness, if you could get through life scotch free, you deserve an award, no– you deserve more than an award, you deserve a country named after you.  As far as I’m concerned, that is impossible and that’s the first thing I want you to remember when you start to get overwhelmed.  

Realize this is temporary.  A week from today you will be looking back from a better place.  You will look back and see how strong you were to make it through, you will realize that you have conquered a challenge.  Remember that.  Everything is temporary, and everything is OK in the end– if it’s not OK, it’s not the end.

OK Colby, cool, I can’t just ignore the issue at hand and focus on the future. TRUTH.  So, here is what you can do in the moment:

  •  Not sure how you are going to get everything done?  Schedule, prioritize, knuckle down, and schedule breaks.  Work one hour, give yourself 5 minutes to relax, repeat.  In the long run, the time off will come in handy, it keeps your mind at ease and body refreshed.
  • Most importantly, don’t overdo it.  Decide how long something should take, and then take that amount of time to do it.  Have to bring a dish to a friends house for a get-together? It is OK to buy something instead of spending an hour baking it. <– Overdoing it when you are stressed is not going to help.  This applies to everything including studying, writing papers, etc.  Don’t let the perfectionist side of you take over, not everything has to be done to more than needed.  Yes, that is coming from a perfectionist. 
  • Make a mental, physical, and academic health priority goal at the beginning of each day.  You will probably get more than these things done, but at least you can start with both a plan AND a balance.  — Ellen Slater, MyUncommonEveryday
  • Try to let go of perfectionist urges, and learn to practice self-compassion, in short “treat yourself like you would a good friend”. — Hannah Heitz, Craving Happy
  • Change your perception on stress.  Read this.  That is all.

Comment below– what is your number one tip for dealing with stress?

See you tomorrow, YOU MAKE YOU!

Colby

Want more? Check out this $2.50 eBook with tons more tips on successfully balancing health and happiness. 

 

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Perfection Isn’t Real

Perfection Isn’t Real

30 Day Blogging Challenge #15.

Here was my day yesterday:

7:30 wakeup

7:40 begin 8 mile run 

8:50 struggle to finish 8 mile run without throwing up

9:00 decide the fact that my stomach has hurt 24/7 for the past two weeks  and ^ happening meant it was time to go to Urgent Care

9:20 get a completely flat tire on the way there, I’m talking 100 to 0 in 5 seconds

9:30 call my parents bawling my eyes out because everything was going wrong

9:40 get my shit together enough to leave my car and take a taxi to and from Urgent Care

11:30 return from Urgent Care where they put me on an antibiotic because they were unsure what was up

11:40 call AAA to fix my tire

1:00 AAA puts a donut on my tire, I tip him $20 because that is the only bill  I had on me, and I make animg_0015 appointment at Goodyear for 3pm to get a real tire

1:oo-2:45 I attempt to make up some of the work I was missing in classes that day

3:00-5:20 sit at Goodyear, still with stomach pain, until my car is fixed

6:00-7:00 bike at the gym until enough stress was released

8:00-an hour ago sleep 12 hours and pretend like yesterday didn’t happen

 

I didn’t post this for sympathy, or anything like that at all.  I posted this because I am human, everyone is human, and being human means not everything will be glitter and rainbows all of the time.  Not everything will be perfect, and that is OK.  I posted this because I get too many emails and DM’s asking how I keep my sh!t together so well, how I keep my mindset on right all of the time, how I live so “perfectly” and as much as I love hearing from each and everyone of you (srsly keep it up), just because I run a blog and an IG, that does not make me any different from you! I have hiccups in the road, exhibit 100000^ and of course I have days where I am just not feelin it.  We all do. There is a quote

“There is a crack in everything, that is how the light gets in.”

and that quote is the truth.  Sure, maybe I don’t post my struggles on here as often as I post the better moments, but the tougher times are the ones that teach me lessons, the ones that make me stronger, the ones that ground me and push me to remember what I am here for.  Times like yesterday are the ones that challenge me, the ones that change me, the ones that help me become me. 

The bad days are there for a reason–we just have to accept them, let them build us, and move on.

As perfect as you can try to be, and take it from a type a perfectionist… perfection. isn’t. real. YOU are real.

See you tomorrow– You Make You!

xoxox,

Colby

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Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How To Start // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #9

Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How To Start // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #9

After 9 straight days of blogging I can honestly say that I love it. But, you know what? I knew that I loved blogging before but I never made it large part of my life.  Worst of all, I am aware of that.  Even more worst of all, this happens to almost everybody in the world.  We know what makes us happy, we know what we love, and we don’t do it.

Here is a great post by The Tiny Buddha where he writes about the human  psychological need to resist that takes over each and every one of us, “There are infinite reasons why we make excuses not to do what’s important to us, and the more important something is to us, the more likely we’ll resist it.” This is why far too often, we do not do what we love.

The closer something is to our heart, the greater we subconsciously let fear take over because it has greater potential to hurt.

I won’t lie– I am a victim of this.  It took me almost 2 years to start blogging regularly despite how much I knew I loved it and wanted to do it.  My fear was of time commitment, but what I didn’t realize that I was the one creating the issue.  Sure, time commitment could be a problem, but I don’t need to let it be.  I don’t have to spend hours blogging everyday, I just have to blog.

On the same caliber, there is the …

fear of failure, fear of what others think, fear of difficulty, fear of not living up to what you think it may be, fear of leaving a comfortable place… fear. That is what it comes down to, fear.

Fear is more prominent when it comes to doing what we love because it is so close to your heart.  You literally want something so badly it hurts.  

We build it up so big in our minds that we become overwhelmed, and we run back to a place of comfort.  Who likes being uncomfortable #amiright?

Right.  But, wrong.  Right?

OK that confusing– simpler terms.. we DO like to be comfortable, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do what we love.

I’ve talked about fear before, I won’t keep giving you that spiel over an over, but what I will say to you is that fear is not tangible.  Fear is a thought of something that hasn’t happened yet but you afraid of it happening.  Why should a thought rule your life?  It shouldn’t and YOU are the one who can change that.

The first step you have to make in deciding to do what makes you happy is to realize that YOU are the one stopping you from doing so.  SURE, there is the fear of what other people may think, but those people aren’t physically stopping you, it is the fear in YOUR head stopping you.  And, guess what stops that fear? YOU.

Take small steps. Most often, you have built something big up in your head.  Realize that it will not happen overnight, nor should it! Rome wasn’t built in a day, ya feel?  We often think that we need to do a lot to be a lot, but we do not.  Does blogging make you happy? START WITH FIFTEEN MINUTES A DAY, you don’t have to pop a squat, build a blog, and write write write, no.  Start with small steps.  Do you want to be a computer scientist? Go online, code for a bit every now and then.

JUST DO IT. Nike #yafeel.

Last but not least, delete the word can’t from your  mind.  The moment negativity becomes present in your mind, your entire psychology is shifted and you make it that much harder for yourself.  Moreover, YOU CAN because #YouMakeYou.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

See you tomorrow!

xoxo YOU MAKE YOU,

Colby Triolo

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Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

You have one life to live.  THIS life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  The power is yours.  How many times have you read that line from me? Many.  And yes, it is true.  I full heartedly believe in self-empowerment and have experienced firsthand the grand power the mind holds.   However, there are a lot of things that I want, that I do not believe in myself, or make the moves to achieve.

Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel.

Stop eating your entire weight in cereal on a weekly basis.

Knuckle down and spend the time to accomplish it.

This is advice I would give you.  More importantly, I would believe these statements and empower you with all I had to do the same.  However, if I told myself these things—actually I do tell myself these things—I wouldn’t believe the validity or see the answer in them. I don’t believe them when it is me on the receiving end.

No, I am not a fraud.  I am just a human, and as humans we struggle to take our own advice.  It is not that our advice is false, because it is not, it is simply that when we give ourselves advice, we find a way to believe we are an exception and our minds work to justify why the advice doesn’t apply to us.  It is frustrating.  It really is. It is like a plague—the person we should trust the most, we often trust the least.

Yes, I am going all Engineer on you again.  Here is the scientific reasoning:

As yourself, you know everything: your thoughts, your emotions, your background, your desires, your everything.  Therefore, any decision becomes a subjective one, and you lose the ability to rationalize your thinking.  Everything you suggest to yourself is affected by your emotions and the questioning of your mind.  Think about it like this… when you ask someone to give you advice, all they have to their knowledge is the hard facts you supply them with.  Sure, you could let your opinion be heard, or your emotions come out, but the ‘advice giver’ is easily able to dissect the facts from the feelings and spit back to you an objective, rational answer.  However, if you were to sit in a room with yourself, you not only have the facts running around, but you have your emotions and desires tainting them, pulling them left and right, twisting them up and down, eventually causing you to lose sight of the basic scenario, and the rationality of the situation.  We often find a way to convince ourselves that we are the exception to our own advice or the advice doesn’t apply to us.  This is a figment of our emotions.  Concurrently, this is our internal struggle to look deeply inward and be ‘harsh’ on ourselves.  Emotions cause us to hesitate to delve deeper into these feeling, and to push past them and get to the truth on the inside. We feel emotions and we stop—we don’t want to go deeper.  We don’t want to dissect them.  We don’t want to be ‘harsh’ and bring ourselves back to reality.  This is why we take others advice more easily than our own.  1. They don’t feel the emotions we feel, therefore they have the ability to objectify the decision rationally and 2. They aren’t afraid to be full heartedly real with the truth.

OK, cool, that was demoralizing.  No, that was not the point—those are just the facts.  This happens to everyone and it is OK.  Being human is OK.  More than OK, actually.  But, here are some tips I have discovered to help you defeat this barrier between yourself and.. well yourself.

Bounce of of others.  Give yourself advice, and then “double check” it with a friend.

Write it out.  Write out the situation and then read it as someone looking in.  Respond how you would if a friend were coming to you with the same situation.

Stop being so harsh on yourself.  Do you know the saying, “treat others the way you want to be treated”? Well, it works both ways.  TREAT YOURSELF the way you would treat others.  We are far too often incredibly harsh on ourselves in our minds.  However, 9/10 times the things we say, or think, to ourselves we wouldn’t say to another person.  There is no need for this.

Stop saying “I should” and just do.  A simple change in word choice can make a world of difference.

Whatever your ‘but’ case is, flip it. Usually the thing keeping us from taking our own advice is the ‘but’.   I should talk to him but I am nervous he isn’t interested. No, flip it. I am nervous he isn’t interested but I should talk to him because I am not positive.  I should apply for another job because I am not happy but I don’t want to offend my co-workers so I won’t.  No. I don’t want to offend my co-workers but I should apply for another job because I am not happy. Get the idea?

 

We have one life to live, THIS life, YOUR life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  TRUST YOURSELF to get you there.

YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxo, Colby

P.S. If you can’t find me on Instagram, I have updated my name to be.happyhealthyfit !

 

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