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Taking Care of Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself

It seems like lately I have been having more and more conversations with people in which they mention that “they are a certain way and know it’s bad to be that way”.  Or something similar along the lines of trying to be something they aren’t because they think how they actually are is not correct, or accepted.

This kills me.

Trust me, I get the whole doing certain things to make others happy every now and then; but, never do I think it is okay to compromise who you truly are, and want to be, because you think it’s not right.

That is utter bullshit. 

The beauty of humanity is that we are all who we are.  We are born into our bodies and given full control of how we use them and how we use our minds.  And on top of that, full control is given to us, absolutely nobody outside of yourself decides who you become.

So, you are right.  Who you want to be is right.  Why?  Because you are the one with the command center for your life.

I don’t mean go do you 24/7 and wreck the world, I mean

If you feel a certain way, you should feel that way

If you want to make a certain choice, you should make that choice

If you want to focus on certain things, you should focus on those things

If you want to ignore certain things, you should ignore certain things

If you want to love something, you should love that thing

If you want to hate something, HECK you should hate that thing

Because in the end it is not worth it to ignore your heart and your mind.  Life is too short to live for others. Live for yourself.

 

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After seeing the length of this post, I’ve decided to make it into a two part series.  The second part will be posted on Nov. 3! (& linked here once it is, so if it is past Nov 3. you’re in luck!)

Taking Care of Yourself  &&  Being Present in The World

Taking Care of Yourself

5 Ways (you haven’t thought of) To Show Yourself Some Love

Silence the voice in your head that denies your emotions. 

If you want to cry, CRY, do not for a second tell yourself that you shouldn’t.  If you are frustrated about a situation, give yourself permission to be feel that frustration for a hot sec, do not cover it up and pretend like you’re okay when you are not.  If not expressed, these emotions will pile up and they will come back to get you.

Learn to share your life.

This one may seem weird but take it from a person who has the highest walls built around herself– life is meant to be shared.  I don’t necessarily mean with a partner, I mean on a smaller scale.  Take your headphones out and talk to someone on the way to class.  Call your family every few days and talk about 3 things you are grateful for.  See a dope tree (?) and show your roommate.  As someone who loves to be alone, I also believe there is truly something beautiful and beneficial in sharing experiences with others especially on a mini daily scale.

5 minutes a day alone.

One the other end of the spectrum as the one above… promise to give yourself 5-10 minutes alone every day.  Spend this time however you please but make sure to have no music, you want to focus on being alone with your thoughts.

 

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Have to  Get to

Whenever you catch yourself saying ‘I have to do ___’.  Stop and immediately re-word to say ‘ I get to do __ ‘.  For me,

I get to wake up at 530am every morning and go to my awesome CrossFit gym with incredible people.  I get to do hours on end of coursework that I love.  I get to pull all nighters every now and then to submit code projects for a career I genuinely enjoy.  I get to struggle with things sometimes and learn about myself.

The list goes on and on.  But, rewording all of my have to’s  like this really allows me to see and appreciate the beauty in my life that I could easily overlook on a daily basis.

 

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Forgive yourself and others.

We are all human, and that’s the end of the story.  People can do shitty things, especially without realizing it–heck, I’m sure I have!  But, as hard as it is to do sometimes, learn how to forgive.  I’m not saying to compromise your beliefs or allow people to walk all over you in the slightest, what I mean is to accept what happened as the past and move forward in whatever way seems right to you while forgiving.  Do not ever allow anyone to give you a heavy heart, they don’t deserve that and they don’t have that power.  

 

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Self Love: Stop Saying, Start Doing

Self Love: Stop Saying, Start Doing

Life Lessons I Wish I Knew Earlier

One thing I have been struggling with lately is the difference between saying and doing.  When you say you are taking a nap, it isn’t true until you actually lie down, close your eyes, and sleep for a period of time.  It is the same idea with all thoughts and actions.  I can say I love myself, but do I actually?  How am I showing myself that I do?  This has been on my mind for quite a while, so today I want to share 3 practices I wish I learned earlier(!) that truly do make us honor ourselves and show that self love FO REAL.

Self Love Practice #1

Give only when you are full

We are a generation of good-ists; we always want to give give give. We tend to always care what people think of us so we are always offering, and being the person there for everything and everyone.  But, far too often, we focus so much on this constant giving to others and working to satisfy others that we lose ourselves and ignore what we need in the process. Taking care of yourself is absolutely NOT selfish– in fact, it is your number one priority.

You, me, we– all need to focus on filling ourselves with what we need before moving to others.  When we don’t do this, we compromise our happiness, and often times, our health.

 

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Self Love Practice #2

Set attainable goals, not past-reach goals

I do believe in shooting for the stars however, I believe this only for the long run.  Think about it this way: if you are constantly setting daily goals that you cannot reach, what does that do to your confidence and eagerness to keep moving towards your goals?  Little to nothing.  There is no rush of confidence or acknowledgement of progress when you fall short regularly.

Instead, yes go ahead and set a long term shooting for the stars goals; but, in the meantime, set mini goals that you know for a fact that you can accomplish.  Even more importantly, celebrate these accomplishments.

One of the best things I have done for myself is wake up each morning, roll over, and write a goal down for the day that I know I can accomplish and that will set me further on the path to reaching my longer term goal.  I do this before I even leave my bed.

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Self Love Practice #3

Treat yourself like you would a best friend, not your worst enemy

Over the past year, I have been analyzing what I say to myself, and DAMN, I am not nice to myself.  If I treated a friend like I treat myself, they would not be a friend for long.  And, I know I am not the only one who does this.  We are all our own worst enemy, but why?  Why do we criticize every ounce of our being? What purpose is there in it?  No reason, and none.

The mentality I have adopted is if I wouldn’t say something that I am thinking about to myself to my best friend about her, I will not say it to myself.  Simple as that.

 

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I have more tips and practices coming for you all soon, so keep checking back and in the mean time be sure to follow my FACEBOOK page where I am posting more ~daily~ tidbits.

Stay strong, stay fit, stay beautiful

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