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Self Love: Stop Saying, Start Doing

Self Love: Stop Saying, Start Doing

Life Lessons I Wish I Knew Earlier

One thing I have been struggling with lately is the difference between saying and doing.  When you say you are taking a nap, it isn’t true until you actually lie down, close your eyes, and sleep for a period of time.  It is the same idea with all thoughts and actions.  I can say I love myself, but do I actually?  How am I showing myself that I do?  This has been on my mind for quite a while, so today I want to share 3 practices I wish I learned earlier(!) that truly do make us honor ourselves and show that self love FO REAL.

Self Love Practice #1

Give only when you are full

We are a generation of good-ists; we always want to give give give. We tend to always care what people think of us so we are always offering, and being the person there for everything and everyone.  But, far too often, we focus so much on this constant giving to others and working to satisfy others that we lose ourselves and ignore what we need in the process. Taking care of yourself is absolutely NOT selfish– in fact, it is your number one priority.

You, me, we– all need to focus on filling ourselves with what we need before moving to others.  When we don’t do this, we compromise our happiness, and often times, our health.

 

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Self Love Practice #2

Set attainable goals, not past-reach goals

I do believe in shooting for the stars however, I believe this only for the long run.  Think about it this way: if you are constantly setting daily goals that you cannot reach, what does that do to your confidence and eagerness to keep moving towards your goals?  Little to nothing.  There is no rush of confidence or acknowledgement of progress when you fall short regularly.

Instead, yes go ahead and set a long term shooting for the stars goals; but, in the meantime, set mini goals that you know for a fact that you can accomplish.  Even more importantly, celebrate these accomplishments.

One of the best things I have done for myself is wake up each morning, roll over, and write a goal down for the day that I know I can accomplish and that will set me further on the path to reaching my longer term goal.  I do this before I even leave my bed.

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Self Love Practice #3

Treat yourself like you would a best friend, not your worst enemy

Over the past year, I have been analyzing what I say to myself, and DAMN, I am not nice to myself.  If I treated a friend like I treat myself, they would not be a friend for long.  And, I know I am not the only one who does this.  We are all our own worst enemy, but why?  Why do we criticize every ounce of our being? What purpose is there in it?  No reason, and none.

The mentality I have adopted is if I wouldn’t say something that I am thinking about to myself to my best friend about her, I will not say it to myself.  Simple as that.

 

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I have more tips and practices coming for you all soon, so keep checking back and in the mean time be sure to follow my FACEBOOK page where I am posting more ~daily~ tidbits.

Stay strong, stay fit, stay beautiful

colby triolo

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