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Why Your New Years Resolutions Don’t Stick

Why Your New Years Resolutions Don’t Stick

It’s that time of year again,

New Year’s Resolution time.

I won’t lie, I spend time each year putting a solid effort into my New Year’s Resolutions.  And, since we aren’t lying here, each year after about a month, maybe two if we are feeling strong, I fall off my New Year’s Resolutions.  Sometiems without even realizing it.

It happens.  It happens to a good 90% of us.

New Year’s Resolutions are tough to keep for longer than the ‘new year’ phase.

And, this isn’t because we realize our New Year’s Resolutions aren’t relevant anymore.  That is actually quite the opposite.  We all set these Resolutions because we truly want them to happen, it’s not the desire that is missing.

It can be incredibly frustrating when our New Year’s Resolutions don’t stick.

I am right there with you.  It can be incredibly frustrating when we set the same goals year after year with little to no progress.   We often blame it on being busy, being too stressed, or not having the resources– maybe these are just my excuses. Maybe not. Either way, today I want to share with you the science backed reasons to

why your New Year’s Resolutions don’t stick

and more importantly,

how to start making these goals a reality,

once and for all.  So, cheers to the New Year & an even bigger CHEERS to accomplishing your resolutions like the true champion you are.

5 Reasons Your New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Stick

& How To Make Them

Reason #1: You forget.

Maybe you do straight up forget.  Or, maybe you simply don’t think about your New Year’s Resolutions enough.  Either way, it does not work to only snap back into your consciousness regarding your goals once a week.  How can you make progress towards something if all it gets is a minute or so of your attention on occasion? You can’t.

Fix this:

Set yourself daily reminder via sticky notes, notes in your planner or on your laptop– wherever you spend a majority of your day.  You need to integrate your goals into your daily life, you can’t have them be separate.  

Confused at where to start: My 21 Day Power Up walks you through this integration seamlessly.

set reminders

 

Reason #2: You have the “All or Nothing” Mentality

One important thing to realize in the process of achieving your New Year’s Resolutions is that you will not achieve them overnight.  It takes time and progression.

Fix this: 

Do not get upset if it takes time.  But, more importantly, embrace the journey and focus on the small steps.  A handful of small steps adds up to one big leap.

 

small steps

Leading to the next one….

Reason #3: You fall down, but don’t get up.

I will not deny that failure is demotivating, messing up is frustrating, stumbling is discouraging.  I will not deny it, but failure is not true failure until you categorize it as so.  You can fall down as many times as need to happen, but in no way, shape, or form does this mean you have to give up.  YOU are the only one who decides when it is truly over.  Fall down, get up.

Fix this: 

Turn your setbacks into stepping stones, not road block. Stop giving up on yourself.  Man up, and commit yourself to getting it done!

 

when you fall down, get back up

 

 

Reason #4: You go in blind.

I am definitely a victim of this one.  I don’t like to get deep with myself, so I think “Okay, I want to increase my fitness this year”, and that’s the end of it, I stop at the simple list writing aspect of creating New Year’s Resolutions.  This is one of the major reasons New Year’s Resolutions don’t stick– we don’t fully know what our  resolutions are. 

Fix this: 

After you write your list, go back to each New Year’s Resolution individually and ask yourself more than the ‘what’.  Ask yourself the ‘why’, why do you want to do this? More importantly, ask yourself the ‘how’, how is this going to be possible, how are you going to make progress, what are the small steps you can take?  Making a loose plan not only allows you to know your New Year’s Resolutions more deeply, but also allows you to have a guide.

Do you have trouble ‘getting deep’ with yourself? So did I! It’s tough, but it is so important to not only your New Year’s Resolutions but achieving your happiest self as well.  I wrote this guide to help you out, feel free to check it out.

know your how and why

Reason #5: You’re too secretive.

Take it from me, one of the most independent, stand on my own type of people, New Year’s Resolutions should not be a secret.  No, I don’t think you have to go out and scream to the world that you are working to get a higher position at work this year.  But, I do think you should share with 1-2 close, trustworthy, friends.

Why? 

Because 1. you then have someone checking in on you, BOOYAH to extra inspiration to keep chugging forward.  And, 2. I am sure the person you shared with also has goals they are working towards and you can create a sort of inspirational push between you.  When it is not just you in on your goals, there is a larger internal push to keep going.  In addition, if it does get tough, instead of giving up you will have someone to turn to.

 

share your journey

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Want to know my secret to keeping in tune with my goals?  I set the following picture as my lock screen.  Feel free to do the same.  This works for me because whenever I see it, which is quite often, I double think what I am doing or what I CAN BE doing.

you make you wallpaper

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So, tell me in the comments, which reason above are you victim of? If we are being honest, I am a victim of quite a few!

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Is your New Year’s Resolution health/fitness related?  Well, I have you covered.  I want to help you kick start your goals!  Click here to join my FREE 10 Day Holiday Burn Workout Challenge that begins on January 1, 2017.  We are conquering those goals TOGETHER.

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