motivation monday

6 Life Lessons You Need To Hear (in under 5 minutes)

6 Life Lessons You Need To Hear (in under 5 minutes)


6 Incredible Life Lessons You Need To Learn

I’m going to make this quick because let’s be honest… I wish I learned these quicker.

1. Conforming to society will not satisfy YOU.

Society will push a certain weight, a certain style, a certain attitude, a certain job, a certain anything, but hear me out right now: if you are doing something simply because society favors it, it is not healthy for you.  You can fit society’s mold all you want, but I promise you will not feel better about yourself; instead you will be tired, frustrated, and disappointed in the result.  More importantly, you will never be satisfied and truly happy until you do what your mind and body is telling you to do.


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2. Never, ever say anything negative to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else.

Seriously.  You don’t deserve that.  Treat others the way you want to be treated is the Golden Rule.  But, the SHINY Golden Rule is the reverse: treat yourself the way you want to treat others.  Would you walk around calling strangers ‘fat’ or getting down on them for a pimple on their forehead? No.  So, why do that to yourself?


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3. Stop playing victim.

This one is brutally honest, yet incredibly important.

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” – John Gardner

Collectively as humans, we love to play victim; feel sorry for ourselves, act like the world is against us.  It gives us a reason to hide behind as to why things aren’t going as we desire.  In addition, playing victim gets us attention, and who doesn’t love attention.

However this self-pity attitude is not only a hiding place from reality, but it is tearing us away from our dreams.  By playing victim we are giving up the power to control our lives and decide where we end up, when really that power IS all ours.

Stop wasting time acting like the world is against you when the truth is the world is yours. 

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4. If you don’t like something, change it.

RE: above.  If you don’t like something, I am thrilled to tell you that you can change it.  You simply have to decide that you want to and believe in yourself and the power you have to control your life.  When it comes down to it, you are the only person in the world who has complete and utter control over who and what effects your life.  You just have to take that power. -> This can help you! <-

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5. Hang on with dear life to the good ones.

The world is full of shitty people.  But, the world is also full of angels.  When you meet a good one, when someone treats you right, do not let them go.  However, rid yourself as freely as you desire of the bad ones.  You deserve more.
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6. You are allowed to say ‘no’, heck you should say ‘no’ especially if on the inside you are saying ‘no’.

No matter how hard it is to say no, you can, and you should say ‘no’ especially if in your heart and soul you want to say ‘no’.  More importantly, you do not have to feel bad about saying ‘no’.  Here is a good place to start if you struggle with this.



Are you feeling empowered after reading this blog post?  Like you are ready to take on the world? GOOD, here is your next step.


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Perfection Revisited

Perfection Revisited

30 Day Blogging Challenge #29

One major thing I’ve learned during this blogging challenge– I like to word vomit.  I really do. It’s fun.

Let’s go back to my little ~chat~ on perfection.  The notion of perfection isn’t real, what is real is you.  As a society we build these walls, and we build these canvases of so-called standards that are impossible to live up to.

When did our world become one of comparison? When did our would become one of putting more glory on other people than on ourselves? When did we lose the importance of self love? When did we begin to live for other people’s ideals?

It’s sad.  It’s really sad.  I wrote about this a bit in my blog post — pretty sure I should just start calling them blog rants — called You Are Not Selfish I focused in on the misconception that putting yourself first is in no way, shape, or form selfish.  And that when we are born, we are born with the right to own our lives and control them– nobody else has that right in terms of your life.

I get really frustrated when I see our world conforming to social ideals that have been engraved into our brains.  When the reality is, what makes the world beautiful is the diversity we give it.  What makes the world grow is each and every person adding their own unique contribution.

Nobody in the world is better at being you than you are.  So, I have one question…

Why on Earth would you give up the immense power you are given to create yourself?

I know it is much easier said than done, but you should not feel pressure to do something because it is cool, or because everybody is doing it. You should not change your feelings about something because the people around you disagree. You should not hide from chasing your dreams because you are worried about what others will think.  Most importantly, you should not live your life for others.

 You should live your life for yourself.  

We all are given one life to live, why waste is chasing outside satisfaction when you can spend it finding happiness and inner peace?

Perfection is you.  You are perfection.  You have it already, there is no need to chase it, because then— you are running from it.




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Your Monday Challenge

Your Monday Challenge

30 Day Blogging Challenge #20

I have been blogging everyday for 20 days now… what.


Honestly, it has been tough, there have been days where the last thing I wanted to do was sit down and write because there were a million other things on my to do list.  But, blogging makes me happy, therefore, as a self-loving gift to myself– I do it.  Just like I talked about in The Science of Happiness and Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How to Start, making time even when you don’t have it to spend time on yourself does make you happier.  And, as a result of that happiness, the rest of your life is boosted.

So on this beautiful motivation Monday I want to motivate you to write down three things that make you smile from the inside out, and vow to do each one at some point this week.

Maybe you schedule them into your day, maybe you do them when you are most stressed, maybe you do them everyday.  It is completely up to you what you do and when you do them, but make sure they get done, it’s happiness we are talking about here!

& Of course, who would I be if I didn’t send a little Motivation Monday your way :



See you tomorrow, YOU MAKE YOU!


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You’re Not Selfish

You’re Not Selfish

30 Day Blogging Challenge #18

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams (yes– I’ve said this before). What is one of the biggest fears we collectively have? Others.  

We fear what people will think of us.

We fear if what we do will make others happy.

We fear what will happen if we ‘stray from the norm’.

Honestly, I teeter on the edge of saying we fear each other.  Can you tell me the last time you did something for yourself? Can you tell me the last day you didn’t wonder what someone thought about you or something you did?  Can you tell me the last time you didn’t do something because you were scared of what someone would think?  Can you tell me the last time you said ‘fuck you’ to the world and didn’t allow others to enter your thoughts and decisions?

Can you?


Being a college student, I am immersed in this behavior.  Every day, every hour, I am surrounded by the worry of satisfying others; the self-questioning, the self comprise.

To put it in as few words as possible,  I see people living for someone else.

Putting aside the severe pressure of society to follow a stigmatized norm, I think there is an intense fear of coming off as selfish, and honestly I’m tired of it. It’s sad and it is killing our generation.

It is also a misconception, do you know what the definition of selfish is?

Selfish; lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.

Being completely and utterly wrapped up in yourself to a point where you are inconsiderate of others, that is selfish.

Deciding you don’t want to go to an event because you aren’t feeling it, that isn’t selfish.  You are allowed to enjoy different things. 

Spending your time differently than those around you, that isn’t selfish. Your happiness is what matters most.

Not being able to be there for everyone’s dilemmas all of the time, that isn’t selfish.  You need to take care of yourself first. 

Being or not being friends with someone your other friends aren’t/are, that isn’t selfish.  You choose what/who is apart of your life.

Getting rid of something negative in your life despite any outside influence that may be present, that isn’t selfish.  You deserve more than negativity.

Taking time for yourself, that isn’t selfish. It’s your life. 

Deciding to stop being the sounding board for everyone else’s problems, that isn’t selfish. It’s not fair to you, you deserve more. 

Not following the ‘social norm’, that isn’t selfish. We need more of that in this world.

Saying ‘screw this’ and completely uprooting to put yourself and your happiness first, that isn’t selfish.  This is your life, nobody else’s.

Following your dreams, even if they don’t line up with those around you perfectly, that isn’t selfish, 

That is self loving. 

That is what you were put here to do.

You have one life to live.


The question is, will you make it the one you want?

You are the sole person in control.



see you tomorrow xoxox,


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The Benefits of Breaking Routine

The Benefits of Breaking Routine

30 Day Blogging Challenge #16

It was about a year and a half ago, but maybe some of you remember my the challenge I did on YouTube “A Challenge A Day” where simply for a month I uploaded a video with one change I made in my normal routine each day.  Whether it was taking my bike to the grocery store instead of driving, taking a new route to work, or working out at night instead of the morning, I looked for one small thing in my monotonous routine that I could change daily to see what would happen.


And what did happen?

I was happier.

I learned a lot about myself.

I felt refreshed.

I was forced outside of my comfort zone which in the end pushed me as a person, gave me new experiences, and resulted in new opportunities.

I began to change and adapt.  When living in a normal routine day after day, you know what you are going to encounter on a hourly basis, by taking even the slightest side step away from the usual routine you are presenting yourself with the opportunity to learn and observe new and more effective ways of accomplishing things, and more importantly, you are allowing yourself to become aware of what may be holding you back.

Don’t get me wrong– routine is great, having a plan is great. But when we have a routine, it is easy to get bogged down and let life unwillingly pass us by.  I cannot tell you the number of times I got into my car in high school and the next thing I knew it was 45 minutes later and I was in the parking lot– I drove the same route for nearly 3 years that I lost all sensation in the task.

Some of you know that I am training for a marathon … I run almost everyday, but yesterday I decided to take a break, go to the gym and do a workout like I used to with little to no running and it felt GREAT; my endrophins were boosted more than normal, and I felt more productive than ever.

That is why I am writing this article, because I know how easy it is to get caught up in your normal routine without realizing that anything is wrong.  It is comfortable to be in routine, and we, as humans strive for comfort.  But if we live the same way everyday all of our lives, how are we to grow?  How are we to learn about ourselves? How are we to know ourselves and what we like?

Here is my challenge for you:

Everyday for the next week, change one small aspect of your daily routine.  Whether it be a new route to school/work, your coffee order, saying hi to a new person, or the order in which you plan your day, take the challenge to change your day and observe how your body and mindset reacts.

Remember, nothing is permanent–if you make a change and you don’t like it, you can change back, it’s that easy.




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Maintainable Steps To A Successful Morning // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #14

Maintainable Steps To A Successful Morning // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #14

You spill your morning coffee, and it’s all downhill from there. You are late for work, you get yelled at by a co worker, you forgot your lunch, you can’t focus….

Me ^

It’s the domino effect.

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The first few hours of your day set the stage for the remainder of your day. Today, I want to share with you 5 do-able steps to setting your day up for success. When you are done reading, leave a comment below with your favorite part of your morning routine, I want to know!

Wake up, slay, repeat.. your guide:

  • Open your blinds. Let the natural light in. Studies have shown that our eyes and brains function more optimally with natural lighting. Benefits also include: the increase of Vitamin D which boosts overall wellness, the regulation of our circadian sleep patterns, and a decrease in your energy bill!
  • Spend 2-5 minutes giving yourself one goal for the day. What is one thing you can do today that is a small step towards your goals.
  • Smile What are you excited for today? What is one thing you are grateful for? Think about these things. Look at a quote, read an inspirational passage — do something that makes you smile.
  • Make someone else smile. Send a friend a good morning text, you will no question brighten their day.  Compliment someone. SMILE at someone, they will smile back. Encouraging others is key to having a positive outlook on life.
  • Move. I always workout in the morning because it not only releases endorphins, but also wakes me up to conquer the day. If you don’t have time to workout, just MOVE— go for a walk, stretch, do some jumping jacks.
  • Recite your affirmations/goals. Spend just a few moments grounding yourself. What are your goals? What are you grateful for? You can make a sort of motto out of this to continually remind yourself throughout the day as well. Can you guess mine?;) You Make You !!!
  • Check in with YouMakeYou Obviously 😉

Spare just a few minutes each morning to go through these steps and your entire day will be set up for success.  Now, what is your favorite part of your morning routine? Comment below!

See you tomorrow…

xoxo You Make You,

Colby Triolo


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Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Happy Day 6 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge! I’m really enjoying this so far, I hope you are too. Leave me a comment, let me know what you think, what do you want to read about?! Did you catch yesterday’s post on the Science of Happiness?

But, more importantly happy Motivation Monday…. this post was almost inevitable  #amiright?  I literally speak in motivational quotes.  You make you.

Have you ever just wanted a massive all-inclusive  list of empowering quotes?  That’s what I’m here for today… to share with you my all time favorite motivational quotes. But, that’s not all, I have a challenge for you.  

Choose your favorite one(s) and recite it to yourself at three different times each day for the next week. Screenshot it, set it as your background, set and alarm in your phone… do whatever you have to do to make your quote a part of your life for the next week and see what happens.

This is called the law of attraction– like attracts like, the more you think something the more you attract it. YOU MAKE YOU, get it 😉


The only difference between try and triumph is a little umph. 

These mountains you are carrying, you were only meant to climb. 

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right. 

Strong is what happens when you run out of weak. 

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams. 

Failure buries us, but seeds are also buried, that is how they come alive.  

You have  got to want it, not kind of want it. 

Run your life, don’t let your life run you. 

Don’t lose power by thinking you don’t have any. 

Be one of a million, not one in a million. 

Don’t look back and ask ‘why?’, look forward and ask ‘why not?’

Clear your mind of can’t.

You’ve got to want it more than you are afraid of it.

Have the courage to fail.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

There are cracks in everything, that is how the light gets in.

What is a motivational quote that always gets you going?  I challenge you to post a picture of that quote on Instagram with the #YouMakeYou today!



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