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Taking Care of Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself

It seems like lately I have been having more and more conversations with people in which they mention that “they are a certain way and know it’s bad to be that way”.  Or something similar along the lines of trying to be something they aren’t because they think how they actually are is not correct, or accepted.

This kills me.

Trust me, I get the whole doing certain things to make others happy every now and then; but, never do I think it is okay to compromise who you truly are, and want to be, because you think it’s not right.

That is utter bullshit. 

The beauty of humanity is that we are all who we are.  We are born into our bodies and given full control of how we use them and how we use our minds.  And on top of that, full control is given to us, absolutely nobody outside of yourself decides who you become.

So, you are right.  Who you want to be is right.  Why?  Because you are the one with the command center for your life.

I don’t mean go do you 24/7 and wreck the world, I mean

If you feel a certain way, you should feel that way

If you want to make a certain choice, you should make that choice

If you want to focus on certain things, you should focus on those things

If you want to ignore certain things, you should ignore certain things

If you want to love something, you should love that thing

If you want to hate something, HECK you should hate that thing

Because in the end it is not worth it to ignore your heart and your mind.  Life is too short to live for others. Live for yourself.

 

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After seeing the length of this post, I’ve decided to make it into a two part series.  The second part will be posted on Nov. 3! (& linked here once it is, so if it is past Nov 3. you’re in luck!)

Taking Care of Yourself  &&  Being Present in The World

Taking Care of Yourself

5 Ways (you haven’t thought of) To Show Yourself Some Love

Silence the voice in your head that denies your emotions. 

If you want to cry, CRY, do not for a second tell yourself that you shouldn’t.  If you are frustrated about a situation, give yourself permission to be feel that frustration for a hot sec, do not cover it up and pretend like you’re okay when you are not.  If not expressed, these emotions will pile up and they will come back to get you.

Learn to share your life.

This one may seem weird but take it from a person who has the highest walls built around herself– life is meant to be shared.  I don’t necessarily mean with a partner, I mean on a smaller scale.  Take your headphones out and talk to someone on the way to class.  Call your family every few days and talk about 3 things you are grateful for.  See a dope tree (?) and show your roommate.  As someone who loves to be alone, I also believe there is truly something beautiful and beneficial in sharing experiences with others especially on a mini daily scale.

5 minutes a day alone.

One the other end of the spectrum as the one above… promise to give yourself 5-10 minutes alone every day.  Spend this time however you please but make sure to have no music, you want to focus on being alone with your thoughts.

 

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Have to  Get to

Whenever you catch yourself saying ‘I have to do ___’.  Stop and immediately re-word to say ‘ I get to do __ ‘.  For me,

I get to wake up at 530am every morning and go to my awesome CrossFit gym with incredible people.  I get to do hours on end of coursework that I love.  I get to pull all nighters every now and then to submit code projects for a career I genuinely enjoy.  I get to struggle with things sometimes and learn about myself.

The list goes on and on.  But, rewording all of my have to’s  like this really allows me to see and appreciate the beauty in my life that I could easily overlook on a daily basis.

 

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Forgive yourself and others.

We are all human, and that’s the end of the story.  People can do shitty things, especially without realizing it–heck, I’m sure I have!  But, as hard as it is to do sometimes, learn how to forgive.  I’m not saying to compromise your beliefs or allow people to walk all over you in the slightest, what I mean is to accept what happened as the past and move forward in whatever way seems right to you while forgiving.  Do not ever allow anyone to give you a heavy heart, they don’t deserve that and they don’t have that power.  

 

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Top Tips for Overachievers

Top Tips for Overachievers

WOW, I have been talking about this a lot recently... but all my life I have been the textbook definition of Type A: perfectionist, over-achiever, full of drive, “go go go” , always thinking “what can I do to make this better”.  And I just want to say before I get any further, this article is not going to teach you how to NOT be these things. In fact, I would not trade my personality for the world… most times 😉 This article is meant to give you the TOOLS to balance this personality.  For those of you doing my 21 Day Power Up, you are working on this inner balance as we speak.. OK as you read this, not speak.  This article is meant to show you that temporarily reverting away from those habits can actually propel you forward MORE.

 

5 Tips to De-Stress the Over Achiever, in a non-stressful way.

What do I mean ‘in a non-stressful way’? I mean that when I am stressed out and people tell me to just calm down and take a break—that makes me MORE stressed. I like being busy, I THRIVE on constantly pushing pushing pushing, I like the thrill of knowing I can always do better. But, I do NOT like slowing down. And, I know there are many people reading this right now thinking “YES, me neither” so this is for you.

 Does that make sense? I promise it will if you keep reading.

 

  1. Stop filling up every split second of your time. When you have 5 minutes before you leave the house, you DO NOT have to find a task to fill these minutes up. Try sitting down and doing something mindless that you enjoy.   I PROMISE these 5 minutes that aren’t spent on a ‘productive task’ are still productive for you—you are giving your body a chance to recharge. And, no later in the day you will not regret the ‘missed 5 minutes of work’.

 

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  1. Stress does not have to be negative. I recently read a few studies on perception of stress. The end result? Stress is only BAD if you think it is bad.   It has been found that those who have stress but spin it in a positive way experience no negative side effects while those who have the same amount of stress and assume it to be negative, have tons of stress related issues. Next time you are feeling stressed, instead of getting worked up or nervous, say to yourself something along the line of “these things that I am feeling are actually my body amping up to handle everything successfully, my body CAN handle this and it’s simply adjusting to do so.” Also try using synonyms for “stress” and “worry”.

 

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  1. Recognize the good. This one is pretty simple. Take the time to congratulate yourself on a job well done, and celebrate the little things.  You deserve it!

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  1. Don’t over complicate things. If you are given a task. Guess how long it will take, take that time to complete it, and move on. Trust me, as a certified over-achiever I know the feeling of having to do everything to the max, but just TRY simply completing things that do not need to be overly completed. If you are going to a friends house for dinner, it is OK to buy dessert from a store, you don’t have to make it! If you are studying for an exam, JUST STUDY, you don’t have to write practice tests or litanies of study guides. You get the idea 😉
  1. Do things for YOU. Because hey, YOU MAKE YOU.  Know your reason, know your goals, and spend your time working for those things.

 

I want to know:

Which one of these tips are you going try first?

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