inspiring self love stories

Self Love

Self Love

During one of my finals study breaks the other day (PEEP: How to Survive Finals Week), I was going through some of my old photos on Instagram.  I was looking at the photos, but even more I was reading the captions and I realized… holy shit my self love has been seriously lacking since going away to college– I stopped taking time to myself, I stopped doing things that truly made me happy because I thought I didn’t have time, I’ve surrounded myself with many of the wrong people.  To put it simply, I’ve really neglected myself.

From a combination of the tone of voice in my old captions, the smile on my face in the photos, and the way I treat my body now compared to two years ago, it hit me like a train– I need to start treating myself better.

So, self love, let’s talk about it.

I want to share with you an incredible woman that I have been following for quite some time on Instagram.  She inspires not only me, but thousands of other girls in terms of self love, happiness, and empowerment (& of course finding your own fit is mixed in there)– very similar to what I preach!

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Her name is Stephanie Schultz, she is the Social Media Coordinator for several of Blogilates/POP Pilates channels.  She assists Cassey Ho with many other projects and teaches her own classes in the evenings at her local gym.  In addition, she runs her own blog and Instagram, dedicated to not only what I mentioned above but also to overcoming an eating disorder.  When speaking about this she said 

I want to inspire people to believe that they can get through any struggle.

& I could not agree anymore, You Make You #amiright?!  Steph embodies the YMY mindset perfect and I am beyond thrilled to be introducing you to her as well as her inspiring story today.  I have been following her for a few years now, but over the past few months her self love and daily posts have been something that I truly look forward to and that have had such a positive impact on my life.

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She began her journey to overcoming her ED about 4 years ago.  Because she had been doing Blogilates workouts, Cassey had posted her “before and after” story on the main Blogilates page.   That moment was when her journey to self-love began.  Despite her transformation, she knew it was simply physical: on the outside she was changed, but on the inside, she knew that she was restricting food and over-exercising.  She knew she had to start treating herself better. She knew there was more that mattered.

“Self-love is looking at it from a different viewpoint. Self-love is about loving your mind, body and soul unconditionally. It’s about listening to your body and respecting it. It’s about acknowledging that your body may change but it still deserves love. It’s about listening to who you are as a person and doing things that make you happy. It’s about loving yourself through all your mistakes and having the courage to get back up.”

Coming from me, someone who has had many similar issues in the past, admitting the truth is one of the hardest steps there is to take.  But, more importantly– it is also the BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT step you will ever take.

Take it from Steph and I, we have been there, we know what it feels like.  We know what it feels like to be trapped, we know what it feels like to feel stuck, but we also know what freeing ourselves feels like– it is worth it. 

Self-love is worth it.

The journey to self-love isn’t easy, however, you know what I say: Nothing worth having comes easy. One of the best pieces of advice Steph has ever gotten is to take you struggles, and your sadness and turn them into something positive.  I couldn’t agree more.  With everything that happens to you, you have two options: let it hold you back, or let it propel you forward.  And, do you know what is incredibly empowering? The decision between the two is yours.  As Steph said,

“Of course, you’re allowed to be sad and upset – express your emotions, but don’t ruminate on them, BUILD THEM. Turn it into something more positive so you can help yourself and more importantly help other people become stronger too.”

She even admits that she was afraid to show her true self, that for years she was holding back who she truly was.  However, eventually she was able to tear down the wall she had with herself and that was when her dreams started to become reality.  She wrote this incredibly empowering blog post on turning self hate to self love.

The reality is, that this happens a lot.  We are all our own biggest enemy, sometimes we don’t even realize it.  I am my biggest enemy and I’ll be the first to admit it– but, the beauty is that becoming your biggest cheerleader instead of the former is as simple as a change in mindset.  It is you simply making the decision that you are done holding yourself back.  It is the simple decision that you are ready to own the life that you dream of.

I believe in you, the key is that you need to believe in yourself.

Feel free to join my 21 Day Power Up, on sale for just $6 for the next week , which focuses on just that– becoming the person, mind and body, that you have always dreamed of.

Now, let’s get to the fun stuff. 

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Here are some fun facts about Steph:

Three things that make you happy without fail: peanut butter, family and friends, teaching POP.

I like to wake up to a fountain of peanut butter. But for realzzzz I could eat this for every meal (sometimes I do 😂) This is 1/2 cup oatmeal, 1/2 cup egg whites and 1tbsp of PB and it just melts so nicely 😍 The trick to add more volume is to add water. I add just enough water to cover the oats before adding the egg whites and microwave it. Then I add the egg whites, microwave for about 30 seconds – STIR. This adds volume too. Then microwave for 40-45 more seconds. Carbs ✔️Protein✔️Fats✔️ I eat this about 2 hours before I workout and it keeps me full and gives me energy until lunch 💥💪🏼 p.s I have a new blog post linked in my bio 😘 It's all about a comment someone made to me and I couldn't help but speak up aka rant in my blog 😂❤️ #breakfast #oatmeals #peanutbutter #oatmeal #flexibledieting #foodporn #pbaddict #fitness #reciple #macros

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One piece of life advice:  Over a year ago my dad was diagnosed with cancer and since then I have looked at family in a whole new light. We take the people we love for granted, but I try really hard not to anymore. They are the special people who make life so good for us. Every time I see my dad, my heart fills with love and joy.  

Our hearts are with you and your dad, Steph!

Ideal breakfast: ½ cup oatmeal, ½ cup egg whites, pinch of cinnamon, cooked. Top it with a HUGE blob of peanut butter. YUMMMM

If you could give a young entrepreneur one piece of advice what would it be: Other people won’t always understand your work, your goals and your passion. They will question why you choose to go down this route instead of getting or doing a “typical” job. Don’t let that stop you. Be confident in what you love and keep working towards your goals. It takes A LOT of work and A LOT of passion but you need to have that drive if you want to be successful.

&& last but not least, what do the words ‘YOUMAKEYOU’ mean to you: It means that YOU are capable of shaping yourself and your life. YOU have a lot more in you than you think. You are smarter, stronger, and more confident than you can ever imagine. You are powerful and YOU have the ability to shape yourself any way you want to.

YES, YES, it does! Now, my one question for YOU is, what will you do today to shape the life that you want?



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