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Dear Confused Millennial Part 1

Dear Confused Millennial Part 1

Begin your journey to conquering your mindset at the end of this blog post!

You don’t need to know your future, it’s OK.

It’s my spring break #SPRINGBREAK2k17 AM I RIGHT?! Lol JK, I should be in London by now but yours truly isn’t allowed on planes at the moment because I got a concussion on one a few weeks ago LOL GO ME YES CLASSIC.   Honestly though, I am just as content, if not more right now because I get to spend the weekend with one of my favorite humans, Alison (from Daily Moves and Grooves), in Boston frolicking my little heart out.

Related:  Fit College Student’s Guide To Visiting Boston)

That intro really has nothing to do with this post, I really just wanted to express my love for Alison.  This post is actually something I have been wanting to write for a while as I feel  like lately I am going through a mid life crisis. Yes, I’m 20.  No, it’s not actually mid life, but confusion about my future, and my present has been something I haven’t been able to get off my mind, so this is my attempt at establishing peace not  only for myself but for all the millennium out there.

Dear confused millennial,

I know it’s hard.  I know it’s confusing.  I know it’s scary.

I know you want to know how you will be successful, how you will live out your years.

I know you want to know who you are, who you want to be.

I know you look around yourself and see people who know what they want to do, people who are chasing their dreams, and people who look satisfied.

I know you look ahead and sometimes can’t picture yourself doing anything because you have no clue as to what to attempt to picture.

I know you want happiness, and success.  I know you want love and prosperity.

I know you want your life to be in place, and your future to be in place.

I know that it scares, no terrifies you,  that you feel lost especially when you look around and everyone else seemingly has it together.

I know these things because I am there too, heck, take a deep breath, everyone is there.

But, I also know that at this point in your life, right these very years, through all of the confusion and lost feelings, there is one thing that will undoubtedly lead you to your answer.

And, that one thing is loving the mother frickin sh!t out of yourself, saying YES to chasing your happiness on all levels, no matter what they may be.

The best thing you can do, the best thing we can do, is let go of the fear and the worry, let go of the future and be in the now, say YES to what we were put here to do… LIVE.  Be in the very moment, and do what your heart desires at every given opportunity.  Because when we do that, we unknowingly are allowing our futures to fall into place. 

When we honor ourselves and the present moment we are becoming who we are born to be.

Sure, we like to feel safe, have a plan, and know what is to come.  But, when we do things because we are focused on creating a future, we often miss the key pieces to the puzzle of happiness and self-fulfillment which in the end will be the base to our success.

Here is proof,

I created this YouMakeYou community after I healed myself from 2 years of severe chronic pain resulting from two intense concussions.  I saw 20+ doctors, all who promised to make me better, but instead time after time again, they left me feeling hopeless, either not helping or sometimes worsening my pain.  One day, in a bouts of the worst pain I had felt in months, I took matters into my own hands and began to heal myself through my mindset and mind/body thoughts and actions.

Chasing my happiness, loving myself even at my worst, and taking the immense power that we all have to control our own lives saved my life, and that is what I want you to decide to do today.

By loving yourself, respecting yourself, and chasing your happiness you open the doors to becoming what you are meant to become.  By doing these things you are putting yourself in the most open position to honoring the true journey of which you are meant to follow, whether or not you know what that journey is or not. Hey, you may surprise yourself!

Focus on being in the now, saying ‘yes’ to living, saying ‘yes’ to YOURSELF, and the rest will fall into place.  Trust yourself. It will be  OK.

 

> PART 2,  with action steps, coming WEDNESDAY 4/5 🙂

 

ymycolby

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5 Must Read Happiness & Inspirational Quotes For A Tough Week

5 Must Read Happiness & Inspirational Quotes For A Tough Week

Happiness quotes, quotes to lift your spirit, inspirational quotes.

I’ve got them, which means you’ve got them!  For me, having inspirational and happy quotes in my head, as well as hearing them, does a lot for my mindset.  Quotes inspire me and help to keep me focused.  Honestly, go to anybody I am close to and they will tell you at one point or another I have thrown some sort of uplifting quote at them.

Motivational quotes are what got me through my first marathon.

As I was running that race, my mom texted me the most incredible inspirational and motivational quotes every 20 minutes or so and that was a huge part of getting me through the rough points.   So, today, I want to share some uplifting and happiness inspiring quotes with you.  PLUS, they are pretty so you can pin them and share them 🙂

5 Must Read Happiness Quotes

If you want to begin, or continue, your journey to a happier, healthier mindset, I would love for you to join me here.
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Check back in next Wednesday for some more!

In the meantime, start your mindset conquering journey right here with me.

 

ymycolby

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Roll With The Punches

Roll With The Punches

30 Day Blogging Challenge #30

Day thirty. Wow,  I made it without missing a single day! Want to know something funny though?  I almost couldn’t find the time to post today, LOL, but then it hit me that I can’t end like that.  Who ends like that? NOBODY.  That’s taking a huge L.  So here I am: fingers typing faster than I have ever seen them while simultaneously  shoveling chicken and roasted potatoes into my mouth.  It’s a good time, it really is.

BLOG + POTATOES + CHICKEN = IMPOSSIBLE TO BE NEGATIVE #AMIRIGHT

Here is my status right now, besides the chicken and potatoes, I have my very first marathon in Philly in 3 days, I woke up with an awful cold :/ , and my IT band is acting up.

I’m pretty nervous and a little upset but I don’t want to let that get in my way.  I’ve trained for 18 weeks, a little cold and slight irritation in my knee can’t stop me now.  Sure, I wish the cold could have come a week earlier, but it didn’t.  My knee could chill the f!ck out, but it’s not.

Sh!t happens, it does, that is life.  You have to roll with the punches.  

Most of you know, from reading my story, that the one thing I believe over everything is is that everything happens for a reason. No matter how bad something may seem in the moment, no matter how hard it may be to see the reasoning for something– I promise that it is there.

With every hurdle thrown into your path, you are presented with a choice.  Let it knock you down, or build up an extra bit of energy and hop right over it.  

Hopping over it is what I am choosing to do this Sunday.  I will run that course no matter what.  No, actually I will finish that course no matter what.  Me getting upset and frustrated  will just make it ten times harder on myself, so I choose to not do that.

You have the same choices, and I challenge you to jump.   Jump right into whatever you do.  Because when you let hesitation and ill feelings hold you back, you are missing part of the experience and opportunity.


Even though my challenge is over, I have fallen in love with the hobby of blogging, so don’t forget to keep checking back.  Especially soon for a marathon recap!

xoxox DON’T FORGET YOU MAKE YOU!

Colby

PS, 20 people have begun the 21 Day Power Up over the past few weeks, I challenge you to join them in conquering your YMY mindset.

 

 

 

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Act Without Knowing The Result

Act Without Knowing The Result

30 Day Blogging Challenge #24

I am tired of hearing I want.  To me, it’s almost as bad as I can’t.  You can tell me you want something as much as you desire, but what is the changing?  Please enlighten me, please explain to me this epidemic of wanting wanting wanting and walking through life continuing to want, being pulled by commonality and a monotonous daily routine without changing that want into have.  I am tired of hearing it.  If you want something, please realize right this very second that it is yours.   It may not be easy.  It may take time.  It may take sacrifice.  But if you want something enough to continually verbalize, or even think, about wanting it, for the sake of yourself, please take it. 

 

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We grow up completing tasks and doing things for a reason. Your boss wants you to rearrange the filing cabinets, so you do it.  Your professor wants you to read a case study, so you do it.  Your mom wants you to walk the dog, so you do it.  All our lives, we prioritize the things that have reason.  We do things of which we know the outcome.

But did you ever think of the possibility of beginning a task without knowing what the result will be? Perpetually, that scares us because we have been Pavlonian-programmed to hop on to tasks that are not open ended.  We have done just that all of our lives.

So, that is why when we say we want [something] we rarely ever work towards [that thing].  We are unsure of how to jump into a world of unknown.  We are uncomfortable not having ‘reason’ and concrete confidence.  We aren’t used to it.   We are programmed to minimize uncertainty.

But that is life.  Life is uncertainty, that is the thrill of it. There is nothing wrong with that feeling, it is just one we have to get used to.  It is one that when we do get used to, will open up endless doors into endless opportunities.

Did you ever realize that you can change your want immediately into more if you just do.  Did you ever realize that there is no time more perfect than now?

Sure, uncertainty is unsettling but it is also rewarding and thrilling, it’s healthy.  It results in mental growth, change, and personality building. 

And sure, you may fail, but one: we’ve talked about this before, and two: you may succeed beyond imagination.

Further than making your want into have, learning to do things for the mere reason of doing them is a skill to own.  Mark Manson put it perfectly:

Developing the ability to simply do things for no other reason than curiosity or interest or hell, even boredom — the ability to do things with no expectation for result or accolade or productivity or fanfare — will train you to better make these big ambiguous life decisions. It will train you to simply start on something without knowing where in the hell it’s going.

It can be scary, yes.  But it can also be one of the most rewarding talents you could ever learn.

I challenge you to do something over the next week for the mere hell of it.  

I challenge you to stop saying I want and just do.

One more time for good measure.

Don’t be afraid of the unknown, YouMakeYou!

xoxo,

Colby

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Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Happy Day 6 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge! I’m really enjoying this so far, I hope you are too. Leave me a comment, let me know what you think, what do you want to read about?! Did you catch yesterday’s post on the Science of Happiness?

But, more importantly happy Motivation Monday…. this post was almost inevitable  #amiright?  I literally speak in motivational quotes.  You make you.

Have you ever just wanted a massive all-inclusive  list of empowering quotes?  That’s what I’m here for today… to share with you my all time favorite motivational quotes. But, that’s not all, I have a challenge for you.  

Choose your favorite one(s) and recite it to yourself at three different times each day for the next week. Screenshot it, set it as your background, set and alarm in your phone… do whatever you have to do to make your quote a part of your life for the next week and see what happens.

This is called the law of attraction– like attracts like, the more you think something the more you attract it. YOU MAKE YOU, get it 😉

THE MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES !! 

The only difference between try and triumph is a little umph. 

These mountains you are carrying, you were only meant to climb. 

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right. 

Strong is what happens when you run out of weak. 

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams. 

Failure buries us, but seeds are also buried, that is how they come alive.  

You have  got to want it, not kind of want it. 

Run your life, don’t let your life run you. 

Don’t lose power by thinking you don’t have any. 

Be one of a million, not one in a million. 

Don’t look back and ask ‘why?’, look forward and ask ‘why not?’

Clear your mind of can’t.

You’ve got to want it more than you are afraid of it.

Have the courage to fail.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

There are cracks in everything, that is how the light gets in.


What is a motivational quote that always gets you going?  I challenge you to post a picture of that quote on Instagram with the #YouMakeYou today!

xoxo,

Colby

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SEE YOU TOMORROW!

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The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

Here is your Sunday morning paper.

Here is me giving you proof that You do Make You.

Here is the science of happiness.

 

We all know that happiness is one of the most important things out there, but far too often, we fail to chase it, we fail to focus on it, we fail to make time for it. It’s a plague.

Happiness is  far from out of our control, in fact research has shown that 40% of happiness results from intentional activity. What does that mean? That means that you can decide nearly half the amount of happiness you experience every day.

Here is the hiccup.  A researcher at Duke published a paper stating that more than 40% of our daily actions result from habits, not from decisions.  That is why we fail to chase happiness. The other 60% of happiness comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.The other 60% comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.

So how do you make ‘happiness increasing’ thoughts and actions into habits rather than decisions we have to constantly make?

There are major three keys to this.  Eric, from Barking Up the Wrong Tree, breaks them down.

Major Key via GIPHY

  1. Anticipation: There is beauty (&happiness) in having something to look forward to. Don’t have something?  That is where YOU come in.  Schedule something.  It is as simple as that.  Research shows that people who experience joyful anticipation are more likely to experience pleasure not only in looking towards the event, but in experiencing the actual event when it arrives  This works contrastingly as well, those who more often dread something in the future have less happiness in the present moment and even less happiness in the moment of the specific event.  Give yourself something to be excited for—not only do you increase your happiness when it comes around, but you have more happiness before it arrives. It is a win-win.  Remember how excited you were for your high school prom?  Remember how awesome the week leading up to it was, how a smile would slide onto your face on random occasions when thinking about it?  That is what you deserve everyday. Schedule something you are excited for.
  2. Recollection: It is incredibly easy to get caught up in the fast wave of life and simply flow through each day. It is crucial to pull yourself up, to take a breather, and most importantly catalogue what is going on.  What is making you feel good?  What is dragging you down?  Are you where you want to be? Are you ‘playing it safe’ because you are comfortable?  What is your life dream, are you chasing it?  It is crucial to make the conscious effort to ask yourself these questions on a regular basis, otherwise you will look up from a place you haven’t moved from because you are just comfortable, and years will have passed by.  Recollect to yourself on a daily basis.  Your past plays a substantial role in your present.  It is unavoidable, but also can be used to your advantage.  On a similar note, Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Prize winner, has shown that your brain consistently remembers two sole things about an event: the emotional peak, and the end/outcome.  What does that mean? YOU get to create your memories.  In any given situation, fight to make the emotional peak one of happiness and the end one of happiness as well.  For example, on a daily basis, fight to have one amazing moment, and then end on a happy note at night.
  3. Gratitude: this one is simple— gratitude, scientifically leads to optimism, optimism, scientifically leads to happiness. Trust science.  Be grateful for your morning coffee.  Be grateful for your morning walk to work.  Look for what you can be grateful for every hour and you will be more optimistic, and when you are more optimistic, you will be happier.

 

Now, let’s talk about some smaller scale things you scientifically do to affect that 40% of happiness you do control.

Turn your already daily habits into happiness boosting activities. 

Morning coffee? Instead of pouring it in a to-go cup and guzzling it down on the way to work.  Pop a squat, put down your phone, and drink that coffee while doing nothing other than savoring it.

Daily dog walk?  Instead of catching up on voicemails or speed walking to get it over with, take in your surroundings, stroll, enjoy the moment and the beauty of nature.

Exercise. 

That is all. Well said.

Do something every day that makes your heart sing.

Whatever that may be, do it, even if it is only for 5 minutes.  Think you are too busy? You are never too busy for happiness.  Schedule it in. Read, run, drink wine, eat chocolate.

Find the positives.

Not every day will be perfect, you will face adversity.  I could tell you to find the bright side to every situation because optimism amiright? But, let’s be real—sometimes that is impossible.  Life can be just as rough as it can be beautiful.  However, studies show that those who aim to find the lesson or benefit in any situation are not only happier as a whole, but mentally stronger.  Aim to find the meaning in tough times.

 

I want to know, what is one thing you could do every day that makes you happy? Mine is drinking tea in bed at night!

Always remember, YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxox,

Colby

PS Join me on your journey to conquering the YMY mindset.

Sources:

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/02/happiest-people-in-the-world/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/06/happiest-people/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/01/what-are-the-three-secrets-to-happy-memories/

 

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Running Strong in the Rain // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #4

Running Strong in the Rain // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #4

Not all runs are perfect.  Especially when you are training for a race, there are bound to be days that the weather won’t be on your side, but you still have to train.  You could always run on the treadmill, but if you are like me and are forever scarred by the 15 mile run on a treadmill during which you watched the morning news loop 3 TIMES through, you would choose to run in the pouring rain than on a machine for three hours.   Also, running in the rain is refreshing, it is a new challenge, it adds a new dimension to your game, and honestly it is cool.  Now, if it is storming… DO NOT RUN OUTSIDE.  I repeat, do not!! But, if it isn’t … I challenge you to GO FOR IT!  Who knows, maybe race day will be overcast and rainy and you know what they always say: ‘Nothing new on race day’.  You don’t want the first time you experience running in bad weather to be on race day.

Today I ran 17 miles in rain, the pouring rain to be exact.  My clothes were soaked to the bone.
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HERE ARE MY TIPS FOR YOU TO CONQUER THE RAIN:

  • Hat.  Wear a hat, it will get soaked, but it will prevent you from having to clear your eyes every other second.  Plus, you get to watch the rain drip from the rim.
  • Knock out as many senses as possible.  The fewer senses that are perceiving the rain, the less you focus on it.  Put in headphones and turn that music up so you can’t hear the rain.  Wear long sleeves, long pants, and a hat so you don’t feel the rain hitting your skin.  ETC.  Keep your eyes open though.  Please keep your eyes open.
  • Realize that RAIN COMES IN CYCLES.  It really does. It will rain lightly, then v aggressively, and then back to lightly.  When it’s aggressive, don’t panic, don’t think about quitting and looking for shelter to call your mom to pick you up — it would take my mom 4 hours so — just RUN IT OUT.   The aggressive stage will pass, it will lighten up, and then hold on to the memories of the light rain when it gets aggressive again.
  • Avoid running where cars are moving.  Even if that means running on a sidewalk instead of asphalt, it is better to take the hit one day than to get soaked by a car driving past.
  • Don’t complain.  Have ZERO negative thoughts.  Imagine a beautiful day if you have to.  Just don’t let negativity enter your head.  As soon as it does, you make it that much harder for yourself.
  • AS SOON AS YOU GET BACK get out of your wet clothes.  Your body temperature is going to drop.  Fast.  You want to be out of the soaking wet clothes and in something comfortable so you can drain you legs like usual and worry about showering later…. the rain was your shower, right?

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I want to know, do you like to run in the rain? Do you have any tips to share?

ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU MAKE YOU!

xoxo,

Colby

See you for day 5 tomorrow!

-Workouts-

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Have the Courage to Fail // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #2

Have the Courage to Fail // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #2

Today is day two of my 30 day blogging challenge, thanks for stopping by! Now it’s time for some real talk.

Real talk.  I fail.  I fail, a lot.

But, do you what I do not fail at? Trying. 

Sure, if given the choice I would never make the conscious decision to fail, but I would always make the decision to have the courage to fail. 

There is a negative conation built up around the world ‘fail’ that I want to tear down for you today.

Failing is not bad. 

Failing is not embarrassing. 

Failing is not something you should fear.

 Instead, failing means you are living.  And, not only does it mean you are living, but it means you are living true to what you want to be.  When you have the courage to fail, it means that you want something so badly you are not afraid of what happens if you try.  That is heart. That is commendable.

This goes back to my post on ‘fear’ from this past summer— FEAR stands for ‘false expectations appearing real’.  Essentially, the fear you have of something is a scenario that you have made up in your mind, it hasn’t happened yet, so you are afraid of what you are imagining.  But, why?  Why do we let thoughts scare us so much?  There is no hard evidence of things we fear happening, there is just the thought of them happening.  This, in a tough love sort of way, makes fear a waste of time.

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Transfer back to failure. When you have the courage to fail you are denying fear of failing, you are denying the ‘what-ifs’ and the ‘but’s’ and opening countless doors to the possibilities and real life results instead of letting thoughts of what could happen if you failed hold you back.  You are experiencing life in its raw form, not it’s imagined form.

The most impactful mistake one can make is to never start something.  If you let the fear of failure halt you before you even start,  you are robbing yourself of the experience, the result, and anything that was to happen along the way.  It is not fair to yourself to steal that.

When you have the courage to fail you have the opportunity to reach entirely new levels you couldn’t have before.

Think of a monkey.  To climb a tree, it must jump.  If it had the fear of falling, it would stay on the ground forever.  Whereas, if it had the courage to fail, it would eventually, maybe after a few falls and mishaps, reach the top of the tree, perching itself atop the highest branch, taking in the beautiful world around it.

Do you want to take in these views? Or, do you want to sit on the hard ground, shadowed by the greater trees?

Sure, failure is scary. But the opportunity of a whole new world and perspective is on a greater scale, more beautiful.

I challenge you to have the courage to fail, to say “BRING IT ON”  because without this courage, you will never know what you are capable of.

Here’s the thing…. if you have the courage to fail, yes then failure is an option, but if you refuse to attempt something because of the fear of failure, failure is the only option. Which is better?

Let failure be an option, and if it happens… it happens! I guarantee you that with every success story comes an endless number of failures.  Some of the biggest lessons comes from failure. But without the courage to fail, there is no story to even tell.

Let failure be an option, let it happen.  Have the courage.  And, experience the amazing places you will go.

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See you tomorrow!

Xoxo,

Colby

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Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

You have one life to live.  THIS life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  The power is yours.  How many times have you read that line from me? Many.  And yes, it is true.  I full heartedly believe in self-empowerment and have experienced firsthand the grand power the mind holds.   However, there are a lot of things that I want, that I do not believe in myself, or make the moves to achieve.

Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel.

Stop eating your entire weight in cereal on a weekly basis.

Knuckle down and spend the time to accomplish it.

This is advice I would give you.  More importantly, I would believe these statements and empower you with all I had to do the same.  However, if I told myself these things—actually I do tell myself these things—I wouldn’t believe the validity or see the answer in them. I don’t believe them when it is me on the receiving end.

No, I am not a fraud.  I am just a human, and as humans we struggle to take our own advice.  It is not that our advice is false, because it is not, it is simply that when we give ourselves advice, we find a way to believe we are an exception and our minds work to justify why the advice doesn’t apply to us.  It is frustrating.  It really is. It is like a plague—the person we should trust the most, we often trust the least.

Yes, I am going all Engineer on you again.  Here is the scientific reasoning:

As yourself, you know everything: your thoughts, your emotions, your background, your desires, your everything.  Therefore, any decision becomes a subjective one, and you lose the ability to rationalize your thinking.  Everything you suggest to yourself is affected by your emotions and the questioning of your mind.  Think about it like this… when you ask someone to give you advice, all they have to their knowledge is the hard facts you supply them with.  Sure, you could let your opinion be heard, or your emotions come out, but the ‘advice giver’ is easily able to dissect the facts from the feelings and spit back to you an objective, rational answer.  However, if you were to sit in a room with yourself, you not only have the facts running around, but you have your emotions and desires tainting them, pulling them left and right, twisting them up and down, eventually causing you to lose sight of the basic scenario, and the rationality of the situation.  We often find a way to convince ourselves that we are the exception to our own advice or the advice doesn’t apply to us.  This is a figment of our emotions.  Concurrently, this is our internal struggle to look deeply inward and be ‘harsh’ on ourselves.  Emotions cause us to hesitate to delve deeper into these feeling, and to push past them and get to the truth on the inside. We feel emotions and we stop—we don’t want to go deeper.  We don’t want to dissect them.  We don’t want to be ‘harsh’ and bring ourselves back to reality.  This is why we take others advice more easily than our own.  1. They don’t feel the emotions we feel, therefore they have the ability to objectify the decision rationally and 2. They aren’t afraid to be full heartedly real with the truth.

OK, cool, that was demoralizing.  No, that was not the point—those are just the facts.  This happens to everyone and it is OK.  Being human is OK.  More than OK, actually.  But, here are some tips I have discovered to help you defeat this barrier between yourself and.. well yourself.

Bounce of of others.  Give yourself advice, and then “double check” it with a friend.

Write it out.  Write out the situation and then read it as someone looking in.  Respond how you would if a friend were coming to you with the same situation.

Stop being so harsh on yourself.  Do you know the saying, “treat others the way you want to be treated”? Well, it works both ways.  TREAT YOURSELF the way you would treat others.  We are far too often incredibly harsh on ourselves in our minds.  However, 9/10 times the things we say, or think, to ourselves we wouldn’t say to another person.  There is no need for this.

Stop saying “I should” and just do.  A simple change in word choice can make a world of difference.

Whatever your ‘but’ case is, flip it. Usually the thing keeping us from taking our own advice is the ‘but’.   I should talk to him but I am nervous he isn’t interested. No, flip it. I am nervous he isn’t interested but I should talk to him because I am not positive.  I should apply for another job because I am not happy but I don’t want to offend my co-workers so I won’t.  No. I don’t want to offend my co-workers but I should apply for another job because I am not happy. Get the idea?

 

We have one life to live, THIS life, YOUR life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  TRUST YOURSELF to get you there.

YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxo, Colby

P.S. If you can’t find me on Instagram, I have updated my name to be.happyhealthyfit !

 

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#1 Thing Holding You Back

#1 Thing Holding You Back

Don’t tell me you can’t.

More importantly, don’t tell yourself that “you can’t”.

Why?

Because when you do so, you are validating it.  You are the reason that “you can’t”.

You are putting yourself at a disadvantage.

There is something called the “Law of Attraction”, which essentially states the science-base fact that the more you think something, the more you attract it.  So when you think you can’t… you are attracting the “can’t” factor more than normal, and even worse, more than the “can factor”.

Here is an excerpt from my 21 Day Power Up, a step by step guide to the most powerful mindset of your life:


“Story time: You are scaling the side of a massive mountain trying to reach the top (maybe your favorite jar of nut butter is there), there are 100 people watching from the ground….

Scenario A: Those 100 people are laughing at you, whispering to each other ‘there is no way you’ll make it’, and making sneering comments at you for even trying. What happens?  You feel defeated, upset, you lose confidence, and it becomes difficult, almost impossible for you to reach the top as a result.  You get discouraged.

Scenario B: Those 100 people are clapping, cheering you on, chanting to you that ‘you got this’! What happens? You feel confident, empowered, strong, and as a result you feel lifted and climb higher and higher.  You are encouraged.”


These scenarios reflect flawlessly to today’s topic of mindset.  Those 100 people are the thoughts going through your mind at any given moment; when they are negative, when they are telling you that “you can’t” they are holding you back, causing you to fail; but, when they are positive, when they are telling you that “you can” they are lifting you up and allowing you to succeed.

So, please, do not tell me that “you can’t”.  Remove it from your vocabulary right now.  Don’t let something as simple as a thought rob you of what you want and where you want to be.  Don’t make things harder for yourself.  Align your thoughts, align your mindset, and conquer your dreams.  Anything is possible, the first step is simply believing.  Start right now.

YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo,

Colby (say hi! on IG)

Try the 21 Day Power Up here!

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