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Reasons to Smile When Life Isn’t Perfect

Reasons to Smile When Life Isn’t Perfect

Why is smiling so great?

Because smiling is more than a simple facial movement; rather, it can change the entire emotional state of your mind and body.  I’m not kidding, I’m about to go all science on you so get ready.

Here is how smiling makes you happier…

When you smile you contract muscles in your face– let’s call them smiling muscles.  These smiling muscles, only when contracted, begin a positive feedback loop through our bodies that once in the brain, solidifies the feeling of happiness and joy structurally.  It gets better.  Your brain not only is aware of the fact that you are smiling but actually keeps track of  it.  Meaning, the more and more your brain is acquainted with this smiling pattern, the more it rewires your entire thought process to break it’s natural tendency to lean on negative patterns.

Related: The Science of Happiness

Essentially, the more you smile, the more likely you are to think, and be, positive during un-smiling times.

That is what the whole ‘YouMakeYou’ journey is based on… engraving positive patterns into your brain to deter from the negative ones, resulting in you being able to take life head on from the best mental state possible.  And of course, to leave you with these positive patterns that foster you to accomplish your goals and dreams, whatever they may relate to.

Trust me, I know there isn’t always a reason to walk around with a wide-toothed smile on your face, life can be rufffff.  But, I’ve got you covered with a list of things that can make you smile whenever, wherever you need that extra uumph.

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Reasons to smile today, right now

Say “HI!” to your knee out loud

Press play, that is all

Peanut butter.  Full jar.  Just you and a spoon.

Cancelled lectures

“You’re beautiful, seriously”

When a panda is born it weighs 3-5 oz. and is 7 inches long, and actually the cutest thing ever, exhibit A…

 

baby panda

 

When you tickle a rat, they laugh, but in such a high pitch tone you actually need special equipment to hear them.

Memes, go look at some memes

Long showers

Free food, ow owwwww

Sunsets on the beach

I can’t wink, but this cat can…

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Pay day, wooo!

Fresh notebooks

Unexpected package deliveries

You reached a free drink on your rewards card, hollllllaa

A friend buys you ice cream

A friend buys you … really, anything

Chugging a glass of ice water after a workout

Because dogs stare out the window longer than soap opera actors do

Sometimes people, or animals, forget the screen door is closed

I’m a victim of  ^, picture that

If you wanted to, you could contact anyone your heart desires is 2 seconds flat

The smell of coffee

Laying in bed, with a bag of popcorn, and Netflix

Chocolate.. or if you’re weird like me, vanilla

There is only one you in the world.

And, you are the best you there is.

 

Hey, you….

dog smiling

 

yes, you! If that didn’t work, did this?

Shine on, keep smiling fam.

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Your Monday Challenge

Your Monday Challenge

30 Day Blogging Challenge #20

I have been blogging everyday for 20 days now… what.

Yes.

Honestly, it has been tough, there have been days where the last thing I wanted to do was sit down and write because there were a million other things on my to do list.  But, blogging makes me happy, therefore, as a self-loving gift to myself– I do it.  Just like I talked about in The Science of Happiness and Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How to Start, making time even when you don’t have it to spend time on yourself does make you happier.  And, as a result of that happiness, the rest of your life is boosted.

So on this beautiful motivation Monday I want to motivate you to write down three things that make you smile from the inside out, and vow to do each one at some point this week.

Maybe you schedule them into your day, maybe you do them when you are most stressed, maybe you do them everyday.  It is completely up to you what you do and when you do them, but make sure they get done, it’s happiness we are talking about here!

& Of course, who would I be if I didn’t send a little Motivation Monday your way :

 

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See you tomorrow, YOU MAKE YOU!

Colby

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Changes I’ve Made That Have Changed Me // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #7

Changes I’ve Made That Have Changed Me // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #7

I don’t know why I keep bobbling back and forth between deep, serious blogs and lighthearted easily read blogs.  It’s like my indecisiveness with lattes and black coffee… every other day its the opposite.  I’m a woman with many interests, ya know?

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I’m sitting in my favorite cafe on campus, thinking about how much I’ve changed over the past two-ish years in college.  I don’t know what spurred me to do this, but it excites me.  I find it so easy to get wrapped up in the speed of life and the comfort of routine.  This is actually one of the changes I have made.  Before college, I was always so routine based.  I knew what I liked, I knew what I had to do, I found what worked for me, and I kept doing it. I didn’t like last minute changes, I didn’t like other people affecting my plans.  With the monotonous schedule of school I, more often than not, did the exact same thing every day.  I grew to love my routine to the point where I couldn’t fathom making a change any  given day.  After going away to college, I have begun to not live without a schedule, but live without a rigid routine.  I say ‘yes’ to things I would have said ‘no’ to before out of refusal to leave my routine.  I enjoy spontaneity.  I am able to learn so much more about myself and experience the world greater than before just because I am open to it.  By simply giving up my type-A schedule based mindset, I have begun the have some of the best experiences of my life.

This isn’t the only change I have made with myself over the past few years…

+ I stopped guzzling down my coffee from a to-go mug and started waiting to drink a cup until I have time to sit down and enjoy it.

+ I started making time, even when I “don’t have it” , to do things that make me happy.

+ I stopped spending time on people who don’t spend time on me.

+ I gave up the fear of failure and started trying things I didn’t think I would be successful at.  run

+ I stopped getting rattled when I couldn’t make it to the gym.

+ I stopped washing my hair every time I showered, no joke this is a thing, you’re not supposed to. 

+ I started doing things for me and stopped feeling selfish about it.

+  I started respect-fully not spending time with people who bring me down.

+ I started making a large effort to spend time with those who bring me up and make me happy.

+ I stopped apologizing unnecessarily.

+ I stopped eating food I don’t actually  like.

+ I stopped doing things because I thought I should and started doing things because I wanted to.

+ I started establishing and recognizing what is important to me.

+ I gave up the belief that I had to be doing work every second of every day.

+ And, I gave up the belief that life is a race to what you will become.

 

If I was to wrap all of these changes up in one point, it would be that I started to get to know and trust myself, and I realized that the most important thing for me, and for you in your life, is to let yourself be the center of your life.  It is not selfish.  We all have one life to live, we can’t waste is concerned about what others think, we can’t waste it hiding in fear, we can’t waste it programmed to a routine of comfort, we need to spend it chasing our own happiness. 

YOU MAKE YOU!

I want to know, what is a change you have made lately? Comment below!

See you tomorrow!

xoxo,

Colby

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Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Motivation Monday // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #6 

Happy Day 6 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge! I’m really enjoying this so far, I hope you are too. Leave me a comment, let me know what you think, what do you want to read about?! Did you catch yesterday’s post on the Science of Happiness?

But, more importantly happy Motivation Monday…. this post was almost inevitable  #amiright?  I literally speak in motivational quotes.  You make you.

Have you ever just wanted a massive all-inclusive  list of empowering quotes?  That’s what I’m here for today… to share with you my all time favorite motivational quotes. But, that’s not all, I have a challenge for you.  

Choose your favorite one(s) and recite it to yourself at three different times each day for the next week. Screenshot it, set it as your background, set and alarm in your phone… do whatever you have to do to make your quote a part of your life for the next week and see what happens.

This is called the law of attraction– like attracts like, the more you think something the more you attract it. YOU MAKE YOU, get it 😉

THE MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES !! 

The only difference between try and triumph is a little umph. 

These mountains you are carrying, you were only meant to climb. 

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right. 

Strong is what happens when you run out of weak. 

Far too often we are so busy hiding in fear that we cannot chase our dreams. 

Failure buries us, but seeds are also buried, that is how they come alive.  

You have  got to want it, not kind of want it. 

Run your life, don’t let your life run you. 

Don’t lose power by thinking you don’t have any. 

Be one of a million, not one in a million. 

Don’t look back and ask ‘why?’, look forward and ask ‘why not?’

Clear your mind of can’t.

You’ve got to want it more than you are afraid of it.

Have the courage to fail.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

There are cracks in everything, that is how the light gets in.


What is a motivational quote that always gets you going?  I challenge you to post a picture of that quote on Instagram with the #YouMakeYou today!

xoxo,

Colby

PS. Start your 21 Day Power Up with me today!

SEE YOU TOMORROW!

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The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

The Science of Happiness // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #5

Here is your Sunday morning paper.

Here is me giving you proof that You do Make You.

Here is the science of happiness.

 

We all know that happiness is one of the most important things out there, but far too often, we fail to chase it, we fail to focus on it, we fail to make time for it. It’s a plague.

Happiness is  far from out of our control, in fact research has shown that 40% of happiness results from intentional activity. What does that mean? That means that you can decide nearly half the amount of happiness you experience every day.

Here is the hiccup.  A researcher at Duke published a paper stating that more than 40% of our daily actions result from habits, not from decisions.  That is why we fail to chase happiness. The other 60% of happiness comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.The other 60% comes from 10% circumstantial and 50% genes.

So how do you make ‘happiness increasing’ thoughts and actions into habits rather than decisions we have to constantly make?

There are major three keys to this.  Eric, from Barking Up the Wrong Tree, breaks them down.

Major Key via GIPHY

  1. Anticipation: There is beauty (&happiness) in having something to look forward to. Don’t have something?  That is where YOU come in.  Schedule something.  It is as simple as that.  Research shows that people who experience joyful anticipation are more likely to experience pleasure not only in looking towards the event, but in experiencing the actual event when it arrives  This works contrastingly as well, those who more often dread something in the future have less happiness in the present moment and even less happiness in the moment of the specific event.  Give yourself something to be excited for—not only do you increase your happiness when it comes around, but you have more happiness before it arrives. It is a win-win.  Remember how excited you were for your high school prom?  Remember how awesome the week leading up to it was, how a smile would slide onto your face on random occasions when thinking about it?  That is what you deserve everyday. Schedule something you are excited for.
  2. Recollection: It is incredibly easy to get caught up in the fast wave of life and simply flow through each day. It is crucial to pull yourself up, to take a breather, and most importantly catalogue what is going on.  What is making you feel good?  What is dragging you down?  Are you where you want to be? Are you ‘playing it safe’ because you are comfortable?  What is your life dream, are you chasing it?  It is crucial to make the conscious effort to ask yourself these questions on a regular basis, otherwise you will look up from a place you haven’t moved from because you are just comfortable, and years will have passed by.  Recollect to yourself on a daily basis.  Your past plays a substantial role in your present.  It is unavoidable, but also can be used to your advantage.  On a similar note, Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Prize winner, has shown that your brain consistently remembers two sole things about an event: the emotional peak, and the end/outcome.  What does that mean? YOU get to create your memories.  In any given situation, fight to make the emotional peak one of happiness and the end one of happiness as well.  For example, on a daily basis, fight to have one amazing moment, and then end on a happy note at night.
  3. Gratitude: this one is simple— gratitude, scientifically leads to optimism, optimism, scientifically leads to happiness. Trust science.  Be grateful for your morning coffee.  Be grateful for your morning walk to work.  Look for what you can be grateful for every hour and you will be more optimistic, and when you are more optimistic, you will be happier.

 

Now, let’s talk about some smaller scale things you scientifically do to affect that 40% of happiness you do control.

Turn your already daily habits into happiness boosting activities. 

Morning coffee? Instead of pouring it in a to-go cup and guzzling it down on the way to work.  Pop a squat, put down your phone, and drink that coffee while doing nothing other than savoring it.

Daily dog walk?  Instead of catching up on voicemails or speed walking to get it over with, take in your surroundings, stroll, enjoy the moment and the beauty of nature.

Exercise. 

That is all. Well said.

Do something every day that makes your heart sing.

Whatever that may be, do it, even if it is only for 5 minutes.  Think you are too busy? You are never too busy for happiness.  Schedule it in. Read, run, drink wine, eat chocolate.

Find the positives.

Not every day will be perfect, you will face adversity.  I could tell you to find the bright side to every situation because optimism amiright? But, let’s be real—sometimes that is impossible.  Life can be just as rough as it can be beautiful.  However, studies show that those who aim to find the lesson or benefit in any situation are not only happier as a whole, but mentally stronger.  Aim to find the meaning in tough times.

 

I want to know, what is one thing you could do every day that makes you happy? Mine is drinking tea in bed at night!

Always remember, YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxox,

Colby

PS Join me on your journey to conquering the YMY mindset.

Sources:

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/02/happiest-people-in-the-world/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/06/happiest-people/

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/01/what-are-the-three-secrets-to-happy-memories/

 

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Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

Why we don’t take our own advice … and how to start.

You have one life to live.  THIS life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  The power is yours.  How many times have you read that line from me? Many.  And yes, it is true.  I full heartedly believe in self-empowerment and have experienced firsthand the grand power the mind holds.   However, there are a lot of things that I want, that I do not believe in myself, or make the moves to achieve.

Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel.

Stop eating your entire weight in cereal on a weekly basis.

Knuckle down and spend the time to accomplish it.

This is advice I would give you.  More importantly, I would believe these statements and empower you with all I had to do the same.  However, if I told myself these things—actually I do tell myself these things—I wouldn’t believe the validity or see the answer in them. I don’t believe them when it is me on the receiving end.

No, I am not a fraud.  I am just a human, and as humans we struggle to take our own advice.  It is not that our advice is false, because it is not, it is simply that when we give ourselves advice, we find a way to believe we are an exception and our minds work to justify why the advice doesn’t apply to us.  It is frustrating.  It really is. It is like a plague—the person we should trust the most, we often trust the least.

Yes, I am going all Engineer on you again.  Here is the scientific reasoning:

As yourself, you know everything: your thoughts, your emotions, your background, your desires, your everything.  Therefore, any decision becomes a subjective one, and you lose the ability to rationalize your thinking.  Everything you suggest to yourself is affected by your emotions and the questioning of your mind.  Think about it like this… when you ask someone to give you advice, all they have to their knowledge is the hard facts you supply them with.  Sure, you could let your opinion be heard, or your emotions come out, but the ‘advice giver’ is easily able to dissect the facts from the feelings and spit back to you an objective, rational answer.  However, if you were to sit in a room with yourself, you not only have the facts running around, but you have your emotions and desires tainting them, pulling them left and right, twisting them up and down, eventually causing you to lose sight of the basic scenario, and the rationality of the situation.  We often find a way to convince ourselves that we are the exception to our own advice or the advice doesn’t apply to us.  This is a figment of our emotions.  Concurrently, this is our internal struggle to look deeply inward and be ‘harsh’ on ourselves.  Emotions cause us to hesitate to delve deeper into these feeling, and to push past them and get to the truth on the inside. We feel emotions and we stop—we don’t want to go deeper.  We don’t want to dissect them.  We don’t want to be ‘harsh’ and bring ourselves back to reality.  This is why we take others advice more easily than our own.  1. They don’t feel the emotions we feel, therefore they have the ability to objectify the decision rationally and 2. They aren’t afraid to be full heartedly real with the truth.

OK, cool, that was demoralizing.  No, that was not the point—those are just the facts.  This happens to everyone and it is OK.  Being human is OK.  More than OK, actually.  But, here are some tips I have discovered to help you defeat this barrier between yourself and.. well yourself.

Bounce of of others.  Give yourself advice, and then “double check” it with a friend.

Write it out.  Write out the situation and then read it as someone looking in.  Respond how you would if a friend were coming to you with the same situation.

Stop being so harsh on yourself.  Do you know the saying, “treat others the way you want to be treated”? Well, it works both ways.  TREAT YOURSELF the way you would treat others.  We are far too often incredibly harsh on ourselves in our minds.  However, 9/10 times the things we say, or think, to ourselves we wouldn’t say to another person.  There is no need for this.

Stop saying “I should” and just do.  A simple change in word choice can make a world of difference.

Whatever your ‘but’ case is, flip it. Usually the thing keeping us from taking our own advice is the ‘but’.   I should talk to him but I am nervous he isn’t interested. No, flip it. I am nervous he isn’t interested but I should talk to him because I am not positive.  I should apply for another job because I am not happy but I don’t want to offend my co-workers so I won’t.  No. I don’t want to offend my co-workers but I should apply for another job because I am not happy. Get the idea?

 

We have one life to live, THIS life, YOUR life.  Decide what you want, and take it.  TRUST YOURSELF to get you there.

YOU MAKE YOU.

Xoxo, Colby

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#1 Thing Holding You Back

#1 Thing Holding You Back

Don’t tell me you can’t.

More importantly, don’t tell yourself that “you can’t”.

Why?

Because when you do so, you are validating it.  You are the reason that “you can’t”.

You are putting yourself at a disadvantage.

There is something called the “Law of Attraction”, which essentially states the science-base fact that the more you think something, the more you attract it.  So when you think you can’t… you are attracting the “can’t” factor more than normal, and even worse, more than the “can factor”.

Here is an excerpt from my 21 Day Power Up, a step by step guide to the most powerful mindset of your life:


“Story time: You are scaling the side of a massive mountain trying to reach the top (maybe your favorite jar of nut butter is there), there are 100 people watching from the ground….

Scenario A: Those 100 people are laughing at you, whispering to each other ‘there is no way you’ll make it’, and making sneering comments at you for even trying. What happens?  You feel defeated, upset, you lose confidence, and it becomes difficult, almost impossible for you to reach the top as a result.  You get discouraged.

Scenario B: Those 100 people are clapping, cheering you on, chanting to you that ‘you got this’! What happens? You feel confident, empowered, strong, and as a result you feel lifted and climb higher and higher.  You are encouraged.”


These scenarios reflect flawlessly to today’s topic of mindset.  Those 100 people are the thoughts going through your mind at any given moment; when they are negative, when they are telling you that “you can’t” they are holding you back, causing you to fail; but, when they are positive, when they are telling you that “you can” they are lifting you up and allowing you to succeed.

So, please, do not tell me that “you can’t”.  Remove it from your vocabulary right now.  Don’t let something as simple as a thought rob you of what you want and where you want to be.  Don’t make things harder for yourself.  Align your thoughts, align your mindset, and conquer your dreams.  Anything is possible, the first step is simply believing.  Start right now.

YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo,

Colby (say hi! on IG)

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Priorities – My Olympic Thoughts

Priorities – My Olympic Thoughts

Two thoughts I always have while watching the Olympics:

It would be so cool to be competing there.

I can’t even imagine what those athletes had to give up to get to that point.

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Don’t get me wrong, I admire and respect every single one of the Olympians.  But, that’s not for me.  I have different priorities– I love fitness, I love athletics, but I also love being spontaneous with my friends, I love lying on the beach for hours on end, I love traveling the world, I love running YouMakeYou®, I love well.. a lot of things. 

My priorities are happiness, self-love, and empowering others to do the same.  So, I make a sincere effort to do what fosters those priorities.

I have not always been like this.  I can honestly say that it is hard to know and respect your boundaries.  I spent years of my life swept by  main stream society and doing things just because I thought I should.  The worst part?  I didn’t even realize this was the case.  It is easy to mold directly into society, it is easy to…

be one of a million instead of one in a million.

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In our world today it is easy to become part of the crowd: to do what is the ‘norm’, to be like your friends, to want to be like everyone else.  It is understandable.. everyone wants  to fit in.

However, this is the root of many problems.

When we do this we are ignoring our priorities.

Do you want to go on a diet and workout to the point of exhaustion because you actually want to or because you want to have the body of someone else?

Do you want to spend hours a day on Instagram or Twitter  because you actually enjoy it or because you feel like you have to for your audience?

Do you want to order that salad at dinner because you actually want it or because society has labelled it as a ‘good food’?

Get the idea?  Priorities are EVERYWHERE.  And as the sole creator of your life, it is so incredibly important to know what yours are and respect them.  Going back to my inspiration for writing this post, the Olympics, to be an Olympic athlete you have to give up a lot.  But for some people, their priorities ARE going to the Olympics so it is soul-fully okay for them to give up these things.  Now, to bring this back to a relate-able level, everything you do should in some way, shape or form reflect your priorities.  You have ONE life to live, YOUR life, you do not, and should not,  have to do anything just because  you think you should.  YOU are the sole person you should strive to satisfy.

I see this a lot on Instagram, especially in the fitness world.  Far too often, people revolve their lives around restrictive eating and rigid workout routines when there is no reason for doing so.  They are not training for any sort of competition, they want to look a certain way, or strive to be something they have seen on social media.  They lose sight of their priorities and fitness becomes their life when it was just meant to be part of their life.

Now, I don’t want to offend anyone.  Yes– my priorities are happiness, self-love, and empowering others but that does not mean that yours have to be as well.  Your priorities are defined by YOU.  Whatever they may be, I just ask you to stay true to them, never conform for society, and never lose sight of yourself.

Be one IN a million, not one OF a million.

YOU MAKE YOU

I want to know:

What is your favorite Olympic sport to watch? Mine is gymnastics.

Summer or Winter Olympics? Summmmmmmer.


ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU MAKE YOU

xoxo, Colby

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Top Tips for Overachievers

Top Tips for Overachievers

WOW, I have been talking about this a lot recently... but all my life I have been the textbook definition of Type A: perfectionist, over-achiever, full of drive, “go go go” , always thinking “what can I do to make this better”.  And I just want to say before I get any further, this article is not going to teach you how to NOT be these things. In fact, I would not trade my personality for the world… most times 😉 This article is meant to give you the TOOLS to balance this personality.  For those of you doing my 21 Day Power Up, you are working on this inner balance as we speak.. OK as you read this, not speak.  This article is meant to show you that temporarily reverting away from those habits can actually propel you forward MORE.

 

5 Tips to De-Stress the Over Achiever, in a non-stressful way.

What do I mean ‘in a non-stressful way’? I mean that when I am stressed out and people tell me to just calm down and take a break—that makes me MORE stressed. I like being busy, I THRIVE on constantly pushing pushing pushing, I like the thrill of knowing I can always do better. But, I do NOT like slowing down. And, I know there are many people reading this right now thinking “YES, me neither” so this is for you.

 Does that make sense? I promise it will if you keep reading.

 

  1. Stop filling up every split second of your time. When you have 5 minutes before you leave the house, you DO NOT have to find a task to fill these minutes up. Try sitting down and doing something mindless that you enjoy.   I PROMISE these 5 minutes that aren’t spent on a ‘productive task’ are still productive for you—you are giving your body a chance to recharge. And, no later in the day you will not regret the ‘missed 5 minutes of work’.

 

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  1. Stress does not have to be negative. I recently read a few studies on perception of stress. The end result? Stress is only BAD if you think it is bad.   It has been found that those who have stress but spin it in a positive way experience no negative side effects while those who have the same amount of stress and assume it to be negative, have tons of stress related issues. Next time you are feeling stressed, instead of getting worked up or nervous, say to yourself something along the line of “these things that I am feeling are actually my body amping up to handle everything successfully, my body CAN handle this and it’s simply adjusting to do so.” Also try using synonyms for “stress” and “worry”.

 

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  1. Recognize the good. This one is pretty simple. Take the time to congratulate yourself on a job well done, and celebrate the little things.  You deserve it!

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  1. Don’t over complicate things. If you are given a task. Guess how long it will take, take that time to complete it, and move on. Trust me, as a certified over-achiever I know the feeling of having to do everything to the max, but just TRY simply completing things that do not need to be overly completed. If you are going to a friends house for dinner, it is OK to buy dessert from a store, you don’t have to make it! If you are studying for an exam, JUST STUDY, you don’t have to write practice tests or litanies of study guides. You get the idea 😉
  1. Do things for YOU. Because hey, YOU MAKE YOU.  Know your reason, know your goals, and spend your time working for those things.

 

I want to know:

Which one of these tips are you going try first?

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ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU MAKE YOU

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Posted by colbytriolo in empowering talks, 1 comment