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Life is too short for bad coffee

Life is too short for bad coffee

Why you don’t deserve to settle

To keep the name authentic, I did in fact sit down to right this directly after I brewed a horrible pot of coffee.  I was in an awkward situation because I had used my last bit of almond milk in the mug that was tainted with that pot of coffee so I was tempted to suck it up and drink it but instead realized that seriously life is way too short to be drinking bad coffee just because you are out milk especially when your daily coffee is something you look forward to.  So, I dumped it.

Where this blog post comes from is why I was brewing that coffee.  I was brewing that coffee because I was fed up with one too many things around me and needed an hour to sip and be surrounded (and filled?) with something that never failed to make me feel happy and relaxed.  While sitting there with my fresh, perfectly brewed cup ‘o joe I realized that I needed to stop settling.

 

life is too short for bad coffee

Making peace with a sh!tty world

Now more than ever I am realizing how easy this world makes it to be stepped on and torn down.   As I grow older I see how hard it is to find people that are truly good people to, and for,  you.  We are surrounded by people who are one way streets.  People who are only there when it is convenient for them.  And people who expect the world but aren’t willing to give the world.  We are surrounded by people who are easily influenced by the crowd to stray from what they know is the right thing to say or do to someone.  And, we are surrounded by people who don’t realize the impact and negative effects they have on many people as a result of their actions.

We ARE surrounded by all of these things

 

and it is so easy to fall into the trap or self-blame and self-pity.  Like when you are the person always there for your friends, but not once has anyone asked you how you are doing.  Or like when you make time in your busy schedule for a friend and they blow you off for a reason so minuscule it doesn’t deserve the title, reason.  Or like when you wouldn’t bat an eye before helping a friend in need, yet that one time you needed someone, there was no one.

The point of what I am getting at here is that all of those things are bad coffee.  That’s it.  And as hard as it is to say, and maybe read, life is too short for bad coffee,

the sink is right there and you can dump what you need to.

 pour the coffee

 

(READ🙂 I am not saying to go dump anyone or anything who has ever negatively impacted you.  But I am saying that (ALSO READ:) there is one sole thing in this world that you have full and utter control over and that is your mind and your thoughts; what you think affects how you feel and how  your life goes on.  These things, and many more, will happen, they are inevitable– that’s life man, it’s sh!tty, but in the end it is you who decides if you will give these things power to affect you.

Trust me, I know that is easier said than done, but you don’t deserve to settle.  Those people, or events, that make you feel like you are drinking a bad cup of coffee– they don’t deserve even near you giving them the power to enter your life and affect it so negatively.

You have to do what you have to do to find your happiness and live your life.

Because this is it, this is your life, not a bad friend’s life, not a bad cup of coffee’s life.  This is your life. Wake up, smell that fresh pot of beautifully roasted coffee and live the day for you.

If it means dumping the pot, or throwing the whole damn machine out all together, so be it.  I just went to 7-11, probably the most expensive place one can purchase almond milk ($5 a gallon wuht). But ya know– I am content AF sitting here sippin my joe and that is all that matters.

Here are some related posts that are a good follow up to this:

Dear Confused Millennial Part 1

Dear Confused Millennial Part 2

Reasons to Smile When Life Isn’t Perfect

* 21 Day Power Up: A step by step guide to the most powerful mindset of your life —  (‘letsdothis’ exclusive code for 25% off ~$8)

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PS. The coffee that I brewed that didn’t suck was Drip Brew. Seriously why do I ever try to switch it up.

Drip Brew: Single Purchase (‘youmakeyou’ 10% off)

Drip Brew Subscription (‘ymy’ 10% off) <– highly recommend, these beauts get delivered right to mah door for like $13/month

 

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Self Love

Self Love

During one of my finals study breaks the other day (PEEP: How to Survive Finals Week), I was going through some of my old photos on Instagram.  I was looking at the photos, but even more I was reading the captions and I realized… holy shit my self love has been seriously lacking since going away to college– I stopped taking time to myself, I stopped doing things that truly made me happy because I thought I didn’t have time, I’ve surrounded myself with many of the wrong people.  To put it simply, I’ve really neglected myself.

From a combination of the tone of voice in my old captions, the smile on my face in the photos, and the way I treat my body now compared to two years ago, it hit me like a train– I need to start treating myself better.

So, self love, let’s talk about it.

I want to share with you an incredible woman that I have been following for quite some time on Instagram.  She inspires not only me, but thousands of other girls in terms of self love, happiness, and empowerment (& of course finding your own fit is mixed in there)– very similar to what I preach!

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Her name is Stephanie Schultz, she is the Social Media Coordinator for several of Blogilates/POP Pilates channels.  She assists Cassey Ho with many other projects and teaches her own classes in the evenings at her local gym.  In addition, she runs her own blog and Instagram, dedicated to not only what I mentioned above but also to overcoming an eating disorder.  When speaking about this she said 

I want to inspire people to believe that they can get through any struggle.

& I could not agree anymore, You Make You #amiright?!  Steph embodies the YMY mindset perfect and I am beyond thrilled to be introducing you to her as well as her inspiring story today.  I have been following her for a few years now, but over the past few months her self love and daily posts have been something that I truly look forward to and that have had such a positive impact on my life.

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She began her journey to overcoming her ED about 4 years ago.  Because she had been doing Blogilates workouts, Cassey had posted her “before and after” story on the main Blogilates page.   That moment was when her journey to self-love began.  Despite her transformation, she knew it was simply physical: on the outside she was changed, but on the inside, she knew that she was restricting food and over-exercising.  She knew she had to start treating herself better. She knew there was more that mattered.

“Self-love is looking at it from a different viewpoint. Self-love is about loving your mind, body and soul unconditionally. It’s about listening to your body and respecting it. It’s about acknowledging that your body may change but it still deserves love. It’s about listening to who you are as a person and doing things that make you happy. It’s about loving yourself through all your mistakes and having the courage to get back up.”

Coming from me, someone who has had many similar issues in the past, admitting the truth is one of the hardest steps there is to take.  But, more importantly– it is also the BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT step you will ever take.

Take it from Steph and I, we have been there, we know what it feels like.  We know what it feels like to be trapped, we know what it feels like to feel stuck, but we also know what freeing ourselves feels like– it is worth it. 

Self-love is worth it.

The journey to self-love isn’t easy, however, you know what I say: Nothing worth having comes easy. One of the best pieces of advice Steph has ever gotten is to take you struggles, and your sadness and turn them into something positive.  I couldn’t agree more.  With everything that happens to you, you have two options: let it hold you back, or let it propel you forward.  And, do you know what is incredibly empowering? The decision between the two is yours.  As Steph said,

“Of course, you’re allowed to be sad and upset – express your emotions, but don’t ruminate on them, BUILD THEM. Turn it into something more positive so you can help yourself and more importantly help other people become stronger too.”

She even admits that she was afraid to show her true self, that for years she was holding back who she truly was.  However, eventually she was able to tear down the wall she had with herself and that was when her dreams started to become reality.  She wrote this incredibly empowering blog post on turning self hate to self love.

The reality is, that this happens a lot.  We are all our own biggest enemy, sometimes we don’t even realize it.  I am my biggest enemy and I’ll be the first to admit it– but, the beauty is that becoming your biggest cheerleader instead of the former is as simple as a change in mindset.  It is you simply making the decision that you are done holding yourself back.  It is the simple decision that you are ready to own the life that you dream of.

I believe in you, the key is that you need to believe in yourself.

Feel free to join my 21 Day Power Up, on sale for just $6 for the next week , which focuses on just that– becoming the person, mind and body, that you have always dreamed of.

Now, let’s get to the fun stuff. 

self love

Here are some fun facts about Steph:

Three things that make you happy without fail: peanut butter, family and friends, teaching POP.

I like to wake up to a fountain of peanut butter. But for realzzzz I could eat this for every meal (sometimes I do 😂) This is 1/2 cup oatmeal, 1/2 cup egg whites and 1tbsp of PB and it just melts so nicely 😍 The trick to add more volume is to add water. I add just enough water to cover the oats before adding the egg whites and microwave it. Then I add the egg whites, microwave for about 30 seconds – STIR. This adds volume too. Then microwave for 40-45 more seconds. Carbs ✔️Protein✔️Fats✔️ I eat this about 2 hours before I workout and it keeps me full and gives me energy until lunch 💥💪🏼 p.s I have a new blog post linked in my bio 😘 It's all about a comment someone made to me and I couldn't help but speak up aka rant in my blog 😂❤️ #breakfast #oatmeals #peanutbutter #oatmeal #flexibledieting #foodporn #pbaddict #fitness #reciple #macros

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One piece of life advice:  Over a year ago my dad was diagnosed with cancer and since then I have looked at family in a whole new light. We take the people we love for granted, but I try really hard not to anymore. They are the special people who make life so good for us. Every time I see my dad, my heart fills with love and joy.  

Our hearts are with you and your dad, Steph!

Ideal breakfast: ½ cup oatmeal, ½ cup egg whites, pinch of cinnamon, cooked. Top it with a HUGE blob of peanut butter. YUMMMM

If you could give a young entrepreneur one piece of advice what would it be: Other people won’t always understand your work, your goals and your passion. They will question why you choose to go down this route instead of getting or doing a “typical” job. Don’t let that stop you. Be confident in what you love and keep working towards your goals. It takes A LOT of work and A LOT of passion but you need to have that drive if you want to be successful.

&& last but not least, what do the words ‘YOUMAKEYOU’ mean to you: It means that YOU are capable of shaping yourself and your life. YOU have a lot more in you than you think. You are smarter, stronger, and more confident than you can ever imagine. You are powerful and YOU have the ability to shape yourself any way you want to.

YES, YES, it does! Now, my one question for YOU is, what will you do today to shape the life that you want?

xoxox,

Colby

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Act Without Knowing The Result

Act Without Knowing The Result

30 Day Blogging Challenge #24

I am tired of hearing I want.  To me, it’s almost as bad as I can’t.  You can tell me you want something as much as you desire, but what is the changing?  Please enlighten me, please explain to me this epidemic of wanting wanting wanting and walking through life continuing to want, being pulled by commonality and a monotonous daily routine without changing that want into have.  I am tired of hearing it.  If you want something, please realize right this very second that it is yours.   It may not be easy.  It may take time.  It may take sacrifice.  But if you want something enough to continually verbalize, or even think, about wanting it, for the sake of yourself, please take it. 

 

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We grow up completing tasks and doing things for a reason. Your boss wants you to rearrange the filing cabinets, so you do it.  Your professor wants you to read a case study, so you do it.  Your mom wants you to walk the dog, so you do it.  All our lives, we prioritize the things that have reason.  We do things of which we know the outcome.

But did you ever think of the possibility of beginning a task without knowing what the result will be? Perpetually, that scares us because we have been Pavlonian-programmed to hop on to tasks that are not open ended.  We have done just that all of our lives.

So, that is why when we say we want [something] we rarely ever work towards [that thing].  We are unsure of how to jump into a world of unknown.  We are uncomfortable not having ‘reason’ and concrete confidence.  We aren’t used to it.   We are programmed to minimize uncertainty.

But that is life.  Life is uncertainty, that is the thrill of it. There is nothing wrong with that feeling, it is just one we have to get used to.  It is one that when we do get used to, will open up endless doors into endless opportunities.

Did you ever realize that you can change your want immediately into more if you just do.  Did you ever realize that there is no time more perfect than now?

Sure, uncertainty is unsettling but it is also rewarding and thrilling, it’s healthy.  It results in mental growth, change, and personality building. 

And sure, you may fail, but one: we’ve talked about this before, and two: you may succeed beyond imagination.

Further than making your want into have, learning to do things for the mere reason of doing them is a skill to own.  Mark Manson put it perfectly:

Developing the ability to simply do things for no other reason than curiosity or interest or hell, even boredom — the ability to do things with no expectation for result or accolade or productivity or fanfare — will train you to better make these big ambiguous life decisions. It will train you to simply start on something without knowing where in the hell it’s going.

It can be scary, yes.  But it can also be one of the most rewarding talents you could ever learn.

I challenge you to do something over the next week for the mere hell of it.  

I challenge you to stop saying I want and just do.

One more time for good measure.

Don’t be afraid of the unknown, YouMakeYou!

xoxo,

Colby

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