Why We Don’t Do What We Love & How To Start // 30 Day Blogging Challenge #9

After 9 straight days of blogging I can honestly say that I love it. But, you know what? I knew that I loved blogging before but I never made it large part of my life.  Worst of all, I am aware of that.  Even more worst of all, this happens to almost everybody in the world.  We know what makes us happy, we know what we love, and we don’t do it.

Here is a great post by The Tiny Buddha where he writes about the human  psychological need to resist that takes over each and every one of us, “There are infinite reasons why we make excuses not to do what’s important to us, and the more important something is to us, the more likely we’ll resist it.” This is why far too often, we do not do what we love.

The closer something is to our heart, the greater we subconsciously let fear take over because it has greater potential to hurt.

I won’t lie– I am a victim of this.  It took me almost 2 years to start blogging regularly despite how much I knew I loved it and wanted to do it.  My fear was of time commitment, but what I didn’t realize that I was the one creating the issue.  Sure, time commitment could be a problem, but I don’t need to let it be.  I don’t have to spend hours blogging everyday, I just have to blog.

On the same caliber, there is the …

fear of failure, fear of what others think, fear of difficulty, fear of not living up to what you think it may be, fear of leaving a comfortable place… fear. That is what it comes down to, fear.

Fear is more prominent when it comes to doing what we love because it is so close to your heart.  You literally want something so badly it hurts.  

We build it up so big in our minds that we become overwhelmed, and we run back to a place of comfort.  Who likes being uncomfortable #amiright?

Right.  But, wrong.  Right?

OK that confusing– simpler terms.. we DO like to be comfortable, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do what we love.

I’ve talked about fear before, I won’t keep giving you that spiel over an over, but what I will say to you is that fear is not tangible.  Fear is a thought of something that hasn’t happened yet but you afraid of it happening.  Why should a thought rule your life?  It shouldn’t and YOU are the one who can change that.

The first step you have to make in deciding to do what makes you happy is to realize that YOU are the one stopping you from doing so.  SURE, there is the fear of what other people may think, but those people aren’t physically stopping you, it is the fear in YOUR head stopping you.  And, guess what stops that fear? YOU.

Take small steps. Most often, you have built something big up in your head.  Realize that it will not happen overnight, nor should it! Rome wasn’t built in a day, ya feel?  We often think that we need to do a lot to be a lot, but we do not.  Does blogging make you happy? START WITH FIFTEEN MINUTES A DAY, you don’t have to pop a squat, build a blog, and write write write, no.  Start with small steps.  Do you want to be a computer scientist? Go online, code for a bit every now and then.

JUST DO IT. Nike #yafeel.

Last but not least, delete the word can’t from your  mind.  The moment negativity becomes present in your mind, your entire psychology is shifted and you make it that much harder for yourself.  Moreover, YOU CAN because #YouMakeYou.

If not you, who? If not now, when?

See you tomorrow!


Colby Triolo

21 Day Mindset PowerUp



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