love yourself first

Dear, you.

The inspiration for this blog post– of which I am typing in Microsoft Word HEYO no WiFi— is that I just watched the movie How to Be Single and it was actually wonderful. I am not sure how much that means considering I don’t ever watch movies, but still.   TRUTH TIME: I have never seen all the Harry Potters, The Titanic, or The Notebook, basically I have never seen anything.  Movies kind of stress me out.


But, I am writing this on a 9 hour plane ride and they have these cool TV’s on the seat in front of me, so I figured watching a movie would be a bit more enticing than staring out the window at clouds passing.
Has anyone else seen How to Be Single?! What did you think? Let me know in the comments.


Side note.. the food they plopped in front of is really starting to freak me out, it’s just staring at me and I can visibly count 3 different kinds of dairy so far: butter, cheese slice (?) and coffee cream. Lactose intolerance is not a fan at the moment. And I would also like to go to the restroom, but can’t quite figure out how to get out around this tray. UGH OK RANT OVER.

How To Be Single is a comedy about a young woman’s journey to loving herself independent of whomever she is with. This really got me thinking not only about how important it is to love yourself but how hard it can be in our world today to do so. I preach the YouMakeYou® mindset of realizing that you only get one life to live and that is the life that you create for yourself. You have full control, full power, full ability to achieve anything you want, you just have to take it. And, that is the hardest part– realizing that the power exists and is  yours to take. I am not crazy, I know it is much easier said than done but loving and respecting yourself is one of the key steps you need to take. When you do this, you have a deeper understanding of who you are and what you want. You stop having the fear of what other people think. You put yourself first, and THAT is what allows you to take the power to control all aspects of your life. This self-love and demolition of fear is something I focus on in my 21 Day Power Up: a step by step guide to conquering the YMY mindset.

I want to give you some brief tips and tricks to get you started along your journey:

• If you wouldn’t say to another person what you are thinking, or saying to yourself, you should not be saying it.  Stop being so critical.
• Ask ‘why not?’ instead of ‘why?’. You do not need thorough reasoning for every single thing you do—listen to your heart and go where it takes you without thinking through a perfect reasoning. Value your heart and it’s opinion.  Stop questioning yourself.  
• The very first person you should be worried about is yourself. Always. You need to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy. This is one of the things we focus on in the 21 Day Power Up as well—it is not selfish, it is RIGHT.  Think about it like this: the happier you are, the more positive vibes you put out into the world, and the more positive  vibes you put out, the more you inspire other people to do the same.  It is the law of attraction: like attracts like.

Law Of Attraction
• In the same light, stop worrying about what other people think. In my 21 Day Power Up, I refer to this as ego and you should not let it hold you back. You get ONE life to live & that is the life YOU choose to create, do not let someone else dictate that for you.  Defeat ego.  Defeat fear.  And own your life.
• Embrace, appreciate, and admire everything about yourself. You are where you currently are for a reason, every single part of you—body and mind—is what is supposed to be this very moment. Embrace that, appreciate that, and admire that. Know that YOU are the best person in the world at being YOU and that is something to celebrate. Always.


I want to know:
What is your favorite part about yourself? I think it is immensely important to not only know yourself, but know what you love about yourself.  My favorite part of my physical self is definitely my hair! My favorite part of myself inside is my strong will.

What is your favorite movie? I really should start watching more.


xoxo, Colby

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1 comment

My favorite physical part- probably my hair or my arms. They’ve always been decent but are now getting close to amazing 😉

My favorite part otherwise- compassion for others– whether it’s my family, coworkers, or friends. A close second is the discipline and determination I have found in myself over the last year-ish 🙂

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